Why Men Love Bitches

If you take his chores away from him
and praise someone else for doing it,
he’ll want his chores back.
Remember, men need a little coaxing. They aren’t the most
talented when it comes to running a household. Before he was Papa
Bear, he lived the life of the untamed bear, living in his bachelor’s
habitat (with furniture). Think back to your first walk-through. The
sheets didn’t match and the pillows didn’t have cases on them. His
lamp consisted of a velour hand-me-down shade on a
contemporary silver stand with air fresheners stuck to each side. It
was so ugly that even the Salvation Army truck kept driving when
you put it on the edge of the driveway.
So the day the “live-in bear” sets the living standard is the day
your living standard plummets. Stake your claim, but do it without
nagging him. There’s a better way.

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When you use guilt or nagging to motivate him, he feels bad. If
you stroke his ego, however, he feels good. He needs to be
praised. When he goes out to straighten the mailbox and he comes
back inside, say, “Thank you so much, sweetie!” Praise him the
whole way. Then he’ll say, “Why don’t I fix that latch in the laundry
room?”
ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #61
When you nag, he sees weakness.
Barbara told a funny story of how she engaged her husband in
helping out one lazy Sunday afternoon. She sneaked down into the
garage when her husband wasn’t looking and figured out which
circuit breaker turned off the lights to the part of the house he was
in. Then she flipped it off and tiptoed back into the house and
pretended as though she had no idea what happened. “Honey? I’m
scared! What happened to the power?” He’d never think she had
the brains to turn off a circuit breaker. Now she gave him a jolt with
a jumper cable that got him right up off the couch. Big Papa to the
rescue! Then he helped out because he felt needed—as the “man of
the house.”
He found a flashlight and went downstairs to the circuit-breaker
box. He assigned her the very complicated duty of holding the
flashlight for him. “Hold it steady.” When he flipped the circuit
breaker back on, she appeared proud and impressed. “Wow! I
can’t believe it. How did you do that?” Then she called his mom.
“Mom, he is so smart . . .”
When you make him feel like the man? The stud-muffin? The
legend? You can ask him to do anything and he’ll jump to do it. He

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won’t do it because you nagged him, he’ll do it because he 
wants
to. And he’ll now feel good about it.
As John Churton Collins said, “Never claim as a right what you
can ask as a favor.” Nagging makes it a right; asking for a favor
makes it a positive experience. He’ll come running to help if he’s
going to be praised. Just as a woman wants to be perceived as a
“dream girl” to a man, a man wants to be perceived as a “hero” in
his woman’s eyes.