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When you are always HAPPY;
And he is always free to GO;
He feels LUCKY
If you want to talk about your favorite ice cream, go for it.
Traveling to Belize? Yes. Your problems at work or your
disappointing visit to the fertility doctor? No.
It’s perfectly okay to leave some of his questions about you
unanswered.
In fact, it is advisable to do so. When all is said and
done, a person shows you who he or she is. No one will come out
and tell you. Therefore, what a person shows you with actions is the
only
language that matters.
The Dumb Fox Is True to Herself
The fox is the smaller animal, and in the animal kingdom, the smaller
animal is the prey. Therefore, the fox knows it is incumbent on her
to look out for her own best interests, especially in the beginning of
a relationship. On the other hand, the nice girl believes everything
she’s told because it sounds good, which puts her out there to get
hurt. The fox knows that, in the beginning, a man is likely to “flower
up” his intentions; therefore, she must stay alert.
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“I want sex and only sex, with no
strings attached.”
“I’m interested in having
a long term
relationship!”
“Give me sex, and I’ll pretend to
be your boyfriend for a week.”
“Trust me.”
“Hey can I rotate you with three
other women, like a pitching
staff?”
“You are so different.”
“Wanna be the flavor of the
month?”
“I am so tired of the
dating scene.”
Trivia question: Which guy scores more women: the guy who
“flowers up” his intentions, or the guy who tells it like it is? The point
is, if he has a hidden agenda the last thing he’ll do is spell it out for
her. So it’s up to the fox to figure things out on her own.
The reason the dumb fox doesn’t reveal what she observes is
that he’ll show his true colors much more quickly when he doesn’t
realize he is being watched. When a man talks about himself or past
relationships, he may do so as a way of helping her “get to know
him.” Rather than getting into heavy question-and-answer sessions,
the fox keeps the conversation light. Why? The truest things are said
in jest. He’ll tell you everything you need to know in passing
conversation, with a joke or an off-the-cuff remark here and there.
If he’s a wolf dressed up as a sheep, his whiskers will inevitably
pop out.
When the dumb fox senses something’s “just not right” with a
man’s character, she does
not
bring it to his attention. The only
conversation the dumb fox has is
between her two ears.
As
President Lyndon B. Johnson said, “You’ve got to know when to
keep your mouth shut.”
keep your mouth shut.”
When you tell someone who may be manipulating you what you
observe, he will immediately try to talk you out of it. He’ll say,
“You’re insecure” or “You’re prejudging me.” Are you prejudging
him? You had
better
be. The only mistake is letting him know it.
The dumb fox is selfreliant. She judges people by her own
experiences. The dumb fox takes better care of herself and makes
better choices because she lets time elapse and she watches to see
how the man
behaves.
She trusts her observations and she trusts
her animal instincts.
No hunted animal gives the “benefit of the doubt.” The fox senses
danger and hightails it out of there. Never be around a person who
has shown you he is a hurtful person. If he does this by accident,
that’s one thing. But if he’s hurtful on purpose? Game over. You’ve
learned everything you need to know.
In the beginning, have fun and go out . . . but keep your cards
close to your vest. Most important,
take your time.
This will not
only make you smart as a fox, it will help you keep your
independence.
The nice girl loses an important protective mechanism when she
assumes that life is fair, or that Prince Charming will always protect
her. The smart fox is not governed by wishful thinking or the hope
of a fantasy outcome, like Cinderella. Despite appearances, she
trusts herself to watch her
own
back instead of giving a man the
responsibility of doing it for her.
It’s what every animal in the wild does to survive, so that they
don’t become “din din.” Above all, the smart fox understands—and
adheres to—the first law of nature: Every animal for herself.
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