Why Men Love Bitches

A “yes” woman who gives 
too
 much sends
the impression that she believes in the man more
than she believes in herself.
Men view this as 
weakness
 not 
kindness.
When the nice girl needs a man too much and puts him on a
pedestal, she treats him with a view of himself that 
even he
doesn’t
hold. And it makes him very uncomfortable because he knows
(better than anyone) that he “ain’t no white knight.” But he knows
it’s her fantasy, so he gives it the “good ol’ college try”. He makes a
forced effort to try to be romantic, and it isn’t long before he begins
to question whether she’s being disingenuous, too. He thinks to
himself, 
“Hmm . . .
I wonder what she’s really like. She can’t
possibly be 
that
nice.” Like a low-interest-rate credit card that’s
only good for the first month, he’ll start to feel he’s getting the
“promo package.” Not the real deal.

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With the bitch, it’s straight-up and real. There’s no concern that
either side will do a “bait and switch.” He tests her once or twice,
and she puts him in his place each time. Then two things happen.
First, he says to himself, “This one’s not dumb. She won’t buy my
bullcrap.”
Second, he feels as though she’s seen him for who he really is.
She’s seen “the worst,” and she likes him anyway. Likewise, he’s
seen “the worst” in her, so he doesn’t feel as though there is a
surprise “lurking” inside her. When he’s with a bitch, he may be
annoyed from time to time, but he believes that what they share is
real.
The Bitch Is Defined from Within
Eddie Murphy once said in an interview: “The best advice I ever
heard is, don’t take anyone else’s advice.” There’s power in this
because it puts you in the conductor’s seat, right at “the controls” in
your life. It doesn’t mean you should stop seeking information or
outside input, it just means that you’re the one driving. You choose
your own destination.
This attitude directly impacts whether a man will view you as
independent. The minute you stop being an independent thinker and
he starts having to think for you, you catapult right out of the
“driver’s” seat and land right in the “doormat” seat. 
The minute
someone else can dictate what you think or how you feel about
yourself, you are at their mercy.
This attitude also influences success in many other areas. As long

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as you let someone else make decisions regarding your career,
dreams, or aspirations, you’ve limited yourself drastically. 
You’ll
only be as good as that person allows you to become.
ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #98