The skills you need guide to interpersonal skills

Flip-Flopping
Definition:
In one move, you blame the other person AND defend yourself 
from attack, telling them that their criticism about you actually applies to them.
How this might look in a conversation:
“You know, gone over your spending budget by £50 this month...”
“Well, last month you went over by £80 and I couldn’t afford to 
go out with my co-workers for lunch!”
Unlike the first sign, this one can easily go undetected because it is still on subject. 
The second person seems to be bringing up a completely valid point about money.
However, the problem is that although on the same topic, they are not really 
addressing the first person’s concerns. They have, in fact, tried to deflect blame 
by shifting it to the other person. Now both people are likely to be feeling guilty. 
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