Stephen R. Covey The 7 Habits of Highly Eff People pdf



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Clarifying Expectations
Imagine the difficulty you might encounter if you and your boss had different 
assumptions regarding whose role it was to create your job description.
"When am I going to get my job description?" you might ask.
"I've been waiting for you to bring one to me so that we could discuss it," your boss might 
reply.
"I thought defining my job was your role."
"That's not my role at all. Don't you remember? Right from the first, I said that how you 
do in the job largely depends on you."
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"I thought you meant that the quality of my job depended on me. But I don't even know 
what my job really is."
"I did exactly what you asked me to do and here is the report."
"I don't want a report. The goals was to solve the problem -- not to analyze it and report 
on it."
"I thought the goal was to get a handle on the problem so we could delegate it to 
someone else."
How many times have we had these kinds of conversations?
"You said..."
"No, you're wrong! I said..."
"You did not! You never said I was supposed to..."
"Oh, yes I did! I clearly said..."
"You never even mentioned..."
"But that was our agreement..."
The cause of almost all relationship difficulties is rooted in conflicting or ambiguous 
expectations around roles and goals. Whether we are dealing with the question of who 
does what at work, how you communicate with your daughter when you tell her to clean 
her room, or who feeds the fish and takes out the garbage, we can be certain that unclear 
expectations will lead to misunderstanding, disappointment, and withdrawals of trust.
Many expectations are implicit. They haven't been explicitly stated or announced, but 
people nevertheless bring them to a particular situation. In marriage, for example, a man 
and a woman have implicit expectations of each other in their marriage roles. Although 
these expectations have not been discussed, or sometimes even recognized by the person 
who has them, fulfilling them makes great deposits in the relationship and violating them 
makes withdrawals.
That's why it's so important whenever you come into a new situation to get all the 
expectations out on the table. People will begin to judge each other through those 
expectations. And if they feel like their basic expectations have been violated, the reserve 
of trust is diminished. We create many negative situations by simply assuming that our 
expectations are self-evident and that they are clearly understood and shared by other 
people.
The deposit is to make the expectations clear and explicit in the beginning. This takes a 
real investment of time and effort up front, but it saves great amounts of time and effort 
down the road. When expectations are not clear and shared, people begin to become 
emotionally involved and simple misunderstandings become compounded, turning into 
personality clashes and communication breakdowns.
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Clarifying expectations sometimes takes a great deal of courage. It seems easier to act as 
though differences don't exist and to hope things will work out than it is to face the 
differences and work together to arrive at a mutually agreeable set of expectations.

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