Stephen R. Covey The 7 Habits of Highly Eff People pdf

Identifying Your Center
But where do you stand? What is at the center of your own life? Sometimes that isn't easy 
to see Perhaps the best way to identify your own center is to look closely at your life-
support factors. If you can identify with one or more of the descriptions below, you can 
trace it back to the center from which it flows, a center which may be limiting your 
personal effectiveness.
 If you are Spouse Centered
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SECURITY
Your feelings of security are based on the way your spouse treats you.
You are highly vulnerable to the moods and feelings of your spouse.
There is deep disappointment resulting in withdrawal or conflict when your spouse 
disagrees with you or does not meet your expectations.
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Anything that may impinge on the relationship is perceived as a threat.
 GUIDANCE
Your direction comes from your own needs and wants and from those of your spouse.
Your decision-making criterion is limited to what you think is best for your marriage or 
your mate, or to the preferences and opinions of your spouse.
Your decision-making criterion is limited to what you think is best for your marriage or 
your mate, or to the preferences and opinions of your spouse.
 WISDOM
Your life perspective surrounds things which may positively or negatively influence your 
spouse or your relationship.
POWER
Your power to act is limited by weaknesses in your spouse and in yourself.
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