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My Success Is Your Failure
Last  summer  my  husband  and  I  went  to  a  dude  ranch,  something  very  novel
since neither of us had ever made contact with a horse. One day, we signed up
for a lesson in fly fishing. It was taught by a wonderful eighty-year-old cowboy-
type fisherman who showed us how to cast the fishing line, and then turned us

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loose.
We soon realized that he had not taught us how to recognize when the trout bit
the lure (they don’t tug on the line; you have to watch for a bubble in the water),
what to do when the trout bit the lure (tug upward), or how to reel the trout in if
by some miracle we got that far (pull the fish along the water; do not hoist it into
the air). Well, time passed, the mosquitoes bit, but not so the trout. None of the
dozen or so of us made the slightest progress. Suddenly, I hit the jackpot. Some
careless trout bit hard on my lure and the fisherman, who happened to be right
there, talked me through the rest. I had me a rainbow trout.
Reaction #1: My husband, David, came running over beaming with pride and
saying, “Life with you is so exciting!”
Reaction #2: That evening when we came into the dining room for dinner, two
men  came  up  to  my  husband  and  said,  “David,  how’re  you  coping?”  David
looked at them blankly; he had no idea what they were talking about. Of course
he didn’t. He was the one who thought my catching the fish was exciting. But I
knew exactly what they meant. They had expected him to feel diminished, and
they  went  on  to  make  it  clear  that  that’s  exactly  what  my  success  had  done  to
them.