Approach this relationship with respect
Treat the teacher-parent-child relationship the way you would any really important one in your life. Create a problem-solving partnership, instead of confronting a teacher immediately with what’s wrong. “Meet with a teacher to brainstorm and collaborate ways to help your child, instead of delivering a lecture,” recommends Susan Becker, M. Ed.
Let your child develop his own relationship with the teacher
“This is one of the first relationships with an adult your child may have outside the family unit. If you take a back seat and let the relationship develop without much interference, a special bond may develop,” advises guidance counsellor Linda Lendman. “For young children, the teacher-child relationship is a love relationship,” adds Michael Thompson, PhD. “In fact, it may be their first love relationship after their parents, and it can be pretty powerful and wonderful.”
Try not to brag
Of course, you think your child is brilliant, but bragging over her many accomplishments may send a message to the teacher that you think he may not be good enough to teach your child. “You don’t need to sell your child to the teacher,” notes Michael Thompson PhD. “You have to trust that your child’s teacher will come to know what’s important herself. Telling a teacher that your child loves to read will thrill the teacher. But challenging the teacher with statements like ‘Susie reads 70 books over the summer’ or ‘Matthew is a whiz at math,’ may backfire.”
Remember how you liked (or disliked) your teachers
Your experience at school is likely to affect your attitude toward your child’s teacher. “It’s important to leave your own baggage at the door, so you can talk about your child with the teacher (and not about you!)” adds Michael Thompson, PhD.
Benefits
Positive parent-school communications benefit parents. The way schools communicate and interact with parents affects the extent and quality of parents’ home involvement with their children’s learning. If a school speaks more about students’ bad performance than their excellence, it might discourage parent involvement by making parents feel they cannot effectively help their children.
There are lots of evidence showing that the involvement of parents benefits students in the long run. This includes better academic achievement, increased motivation for learning, improved behaviour, more regular attendance, and a more positive attitude about homework and school in general.
Also, by having more contact with parents, teachers learn more about students’ needs and their home environment, which is information they can apply toward improving learning. Parents who are involved tend to have a more positive view of teachers, which results in improved teacher morale.
Recently, a viral post of an American middle-school teacher named Julie Marburger caught the attention of educators around the world. According to her post, she has finally decided to leave her teaching career at the end of this year because of an incident which she claimed to have left her “emotionally unable to continue for the day.” hrough her post, she voiced out her disappointment and complained to the parents who tolerate the misbehavior of their children instead of cooperating with the teachers can better educate the students. The administration of the school was mentioned too, with her claiming that they always want to keep the parents happy which leaves her with no way to the job she was hired to do which is to TEACH KIDS.
I have never heard of a profession where people put so much of their heart and soul into their job, taking time and resources from their home and family, and getting paid such an insultingly measly amount.
Among the common problems when it comes to parents are the following:
Parents who tolerate their child’s misbehavior (especially in front of the teacher)
Parents who don’t care about their child’s performance in school
Parents who don’t cooperate with the school’s activities and advocacies
Parents who have high expectations of their child and who can’t accept their child’s limits, therefore, leading the child to misbehave or perform badly
Unfortunately, these parents do not understand that their cooperation is needed too to achieve their child’s success. They do not know that they can be better teachers of their child. Something must be done in able to raise awareness on this issue for the students future is at stake. Making a move is difficult, but if all educators voice out the same sentiment at the same time, this issue will surely be given attention.
This situation doesn’t just happen in the US but around the world. It happens too, here in the Philippines. In most cases, parents would often come to the school to express their rant on the teacher who gave their child a failing mark claiming that their child deserves more. Worst is, those parents who seem to insist on their so-called good parenting skills when they are called due to their child’s misbehavior. Instead of cooperating with the teacher to correct their child’s misbehavior, they even validate that what their child’s misdemeanor is right and that there’s nothing to worry about it. These situations seemed to be the trend now, and it is causing the teachers to get stressed making them lose their passion in their chosen field.
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