The Art Of Saying no: How To Stand Your Ground, Reclaim Your Time And Energy, And Refuse To Be Taken For Granted

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THE ART
OF SAYING NO
T
he Art Of Saying NO is organized into four parts. In my
opinion, each part is essential. Each one addresses a crucial
aspect of learning how to set boundaries and say no with
confidence and poise.
Furthermore, each part builds on the one that precedes
it. Each adds substance and strength to the foundation laid
by the one it follows.
By the time you’ve finished reading The Art Of Saying
NO, you’ll know two important things. First, you’ll know
precisely why it’s so difficult to decline others’ requests.
Second, you’ll know how to do it without feeling guilty, and
in a way that increases the respect others have toward you.
Here’s a quick breakdown of what you’ll find in The Art
Of Saying NO:
Part I
We’re coming to the end of Part I. We’ve laid the
groundwork for the ideas and strategies that follow.
I revealed my past as a people pleaser for two reasons.
First, I wanted to describe the frustration I experienced in
letting others’ needs constantly take priority over my own.
I’ll bet you can relate to this frustration. Second, I wanted to
show you that no matter of how difficult you find saying no

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today, you can learn to do it with confidence. If I can do it,
you definitely can, too.
Part I also introduced the idea of assertiveness and
distinguished it from aggressiveness. This was done to
highlight the importance of saying no with grace and
respect.
Part II
If we want to change something about ourselves, it’s
important that we understand why we commit the offending
behavior in the first place. To that end, Part II explores the
reasons we say yes when we know we should say no.
You’ll find that some of the reasons are familiar to you
because they reflect your personal motivations. Others may
seem strange. Upon further inspection, however, you might
discover they too play subtle roles in your ongoing struggle
to say no to people.
Our goal in Part II is to shine a revealing light on our
motivations, subconscious or otherwise, and thereby set a
clear path for making a positive change.