than not the answer is no, because we realize that we were young and naive, and
most of us have learned from them. They’ve allowed us to become better. This
self-forgiveness should apply to your recent mistakes, too.
Every mistake you make can help you to improve as a person. But to make use
of the lesson within each of your mistakes, you must first learn to let them go.
Accept what has happened. Breathe it in, breathe it out and let it go. You’re only
human and you’re allowed to continue with life, regardless of the magnitude of
the mistake. Don’t punish yourself for what you’ve done, and instead focus on
what you can do better.
Beating yourself up will not change the situation.
It’s what you strive for next that matters most.
Have you ever met someone you haven’t seen for a long time, and they tell you,
‘You’ve grown up so much!’? And if they’d talked to someone else about you
before you’d
met again, they’d probably have talked about the version of you
who they last knew; someone from the past?
The truth is that ‘You in the Past’ was probably completely different from who
you are now. So if someone judges you for your past, it’s their problem. They’re
the ones who are living in a place that no longer exists. If they don’t understand
that people grow up and mature, they probably have some growing of their own
to do. Don’t let anyone use your past as an excuse to judge you; they’re only
trying to restrict you from building a blissful future.
Remember that nothing
stays the same, including you, and think back to
all of your achievements and
accomplishments.
It’s just as important that you let go of the past, too. People may have done
things to you in the past that you feel are unforgivable. You might not even
remember what they did, but you hang on to how they made you feel. Attaching
yourself to these ill feelings will only
be destructive to your mood, dragging
your vibration down.
When you forgive people you don’t improve the past, you improve your present
and future. You give yourself more peace and build more positive energy
internally.
Those who cannot forgive people who’ve hurt them will only fall victim to them.
Imagine having a major fallout with someone because they betrayed you.
Initially, you’re livid and hurt. You cut yourself loose from them and eventually
you forget about it – until you see them again. At this point you replay memories
of what they did
to you and your pain returns, because you haven’t actually
forgiven them. This will dampen your spirits and could lead you to make
destructive decisions.
Forgiveness isn’t about condoning someone’s poor behaviour and it doesn’t
always mean that you need to invite individuals
back into your life; it simply
means that you’ll no longer allow them power over your thoughts and control
over your emotional state. That way, they cannot dictate your destiny.