Children and Parents
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II. READ
Read the text. Mark the words you don’t know, but don’t stop reading to look
them up.
As a practical matter, even if we are careful to express to our children that we
need their help for the household to run more smoothly, many responsibilities
still seem boring or tedious. How many of us are eager to clean our room, clear
the dishes, or take out the garbage? These are the kinds of activities that result
in procrastination or “forgetting,” which leads to nagging and punitive forms of
discipline. Parents often ask, “What can we do so that our kids complete these
chores without our nagging?” These are steps you can take to help to get
things done and prevent discipline problems.
1.
Talk about why the tasks have to be done. Discuss with your children why
certain activities are important and what would occur if they weren’t done.
2.
Have a family meeting about what needs to be done. Sit down as a family,
and list the household responsibilities. Often differences of opinion arise
about what responsibilities are important. These differences can serve as
the basis for further dialogue among family members. Some chores judged
important at one point may later be discarded. Once a list of
responsibilities is complete, your family can review which items must be
done by certain members of the household and which can be done by any
family member.
3.
Figure out who does what, when, and for how long. When your list of
responsibilities is done and prioritized, your family can develop a system
for how these responsibilities should be delegated and for what length of
time. Some families design a rotating schedule so that chores among
family members change every week or month.
4.
Agree on a way to remind everyone of chores. Even with the aid of a
written list and rotating chores, children (and even parents) may forget to
meet their responsibilities. Discuss what the family should do if anyone,
including parents, neglects to fulill a responsibility.
Whatever the strategy you use, involve your children in understanding why
everyone in the family needs to help and how the work can be distributed fairly.
While parents can reserve the inal say, children will appreciate their role in
family life if they believe their views are being heard. When this occurs, they are
more likely to be cooperative and responsible, and you will have helped to
develop self-discipline.
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