of what I had done for him. His response was, "Debi,
we're not in the business of giving money away!"
This was perfect. She was obviously into her feelings about
it — even after thirteen years! This was understandable
given the fact that every time she had turned the radio on
over the last thirteen years, there would be that ad! As
you might imagine it had all the ingredients of a victim
story —
betrayal, insult, manipulation, withholding, ingrati-
tude, and so on.
So I immediately proceeded to take her through the pro-
cess. It took no more than the seven minutes, and as
always after doing a process like that, we went on to some-
thing else without any further discussion. (Talking about it
would destroy the energy field created in the process).
She went out that evening
and returned to her hotel at
around 11:00 pm. She called me at 11:05 in a state of
great excitement. Apparently she had checked her voice
mail messages and one was from the studio producer
who had helped her do that particular ad.
The message went like this: "Debi, that commercial you
recorded for Mr. X. has come up again, and it needs to
be re-recorded. However, the copyright has expired, so
you could earn all the royalties on it this time. Are you
interested?"
Well,
as you might imagine, I was jumping up and down
yelling, "Hey, this stuff really works!" But then Debi says,
"But there's more. When we did the 13 steps," Debi went
on, "I happened to glance at the clock on the wall, and for
some reason I registered the time quite clearly in my mind.
It was 3:01 pm. That message came in at 3:02 pm! One
minute after — and I haven't spoken with him for months!"
Debi's victim story about how she was used, cheated,
dishonored, insulted, and rejected had kept the energy
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stuck for thirteen years. It was
not until she was invited to
express a minute amount of willingness to see that she
had created that story out of her own perception of the
situation, and during the 13 Steps process, reframed it in
a way that reflected spiritual truth, that the energy field
collapsed. At no point did we “work” on her story. That
would only have given it more power and reinforced it.
Instead we used the holo-energetic technology of Radi-
cal Forgiveness to transform the energy.
It is interesting to look at what might have been happen-
ing here. Most people would
have agreed with Debi that
this man had betrayed, insulted and dishonored her by
his selfish attitude. Yet the very fact that he exhibited this
really quite peculiar kind of behavior was a clue that some-
thing else was going on beneath the apparent situation.
At the time that event occurred, Debi’s self esteem was
very low. Even though she was always being told how
good a singer she was, she could never accept it. She
would always put herself down.
She had an unconscious
belief that she wasn’t worthy of what she could rightly
charge for her talent.
It is a principle of Radical Forgiveness that if you have a
limiting belief that prevents you from becoming whole or
from achieving your true purpose, your Higher Self will
always find a way to acquaint you with your limiting belief
so you can heal it. It can’t intervene directly because you
have free will. But it can,
through the Law of Attraction,
bring into your life someone who will act out your belief for
you so you see it for what it is and choose to let it go.
This man resonated with her limiting belief that she was
unworthy, not good enough, and undeserving and re-
sponded to the call. His Higher Self colluded with her
Higher Self to play this worthiness issue out so she got to
feel the pain of this idea in order that she might see it and
choose again.
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Far from being a villain then,
this man was, in fact, a heal-
ing angel for Debi. At great discomfort to himself — for
who would enjoy being a mean-spirited jerk — he played
out Debi’s story for her. Unfortunately, she missed the
lesson at that time and simply took it as an opportunity to
enlarge her ‘not-good-enough’ story and to prove it right.
It was not until thirteen years later that she did a simple
little process called
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