Past
Future
Worries
Stories
Fig. 12:
Why People Don’t Heal
She argues that if it takes 60 to 70
percent of the aver-
age person’s precious life-force to manage the nega-
tive experiences of his or her childhood, adolescence
and earlier years of adulthood, as well as to hold on to
the losses, disappointments, and resentments of the
past, and another 10
percent worrying about, planning
for and trying to control the future, that leaves precious
little energy for the present moment — or for healing.
(It is important to note that it does not drain our energy
to maintain positive memories nor even negative
memories if they have been processed and forgiven.)
Life has its own way of bringing us — and our energy
— into present time. Often it is through trauma. When
we find ourselves
in the midst of a disaster, have an
unexpected accident, or discover that our lives suddenly
are in danger, we become very focused on the present
moment. We bring all our consciousness into the
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Stories
(Emotional
Baggage)
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present instinctively.
Suddenly, the past does not mat-
ter. The future does not matter. Only this moment ex-
ists. The power of such currently-focused energy is
demonstrated when a mother, seeing her child trapped
under a car, suddenly becomes able to lift the car off
the ground so her child can be rescued.
Acts of incredible bravery
and courage also happen
when energy becomes focused in the moment, be-
cause fear only occurs when we bring the past into the
future. When we are truly in the moment we are abso-
lutely fearless, because we have no awareness of past
or future.
Radical Forgiveness helps us be in present time, be-
cause we do not
forgive radically
by going back into
the past. We simply forgive the person who happens
to be mirroring our projection right here in the present.
That is the beauty of Radical Forgiveness.
It is true that sometimes the past connection will be so
clear, as in Jill’s case, it illuminates the current situa-
tion. However, the focus is still on the perfection of what
is happening
in the now
.
We can either choose to let
go of the victim archetype
and bring our energy into the present through Radical
Forgiveness or wait for a significant trauma to force us
into the now. In other words, we can either transform
our consciousness as a matter of will, or we can wait
for a disaster or a life-threatening
illness to make us
do it.
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