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Postscript:
This ‘time-line’ diagram depicts Jill’s story as a
graphic. She found this very helpful in seeing how the original
pain of not feeling loved by her father had led to a belief that she
was not enough and how, in turn, that belief had played out in her
life. You might do the same for yourself if you think you have a
similar story running your life.
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TIME LINE
ORIGINAL PAIN
RADICAL FORGIVENESS OCCURS
CORE BELIEF
Pain Repressed
“Dad doesn’t love me!”
 
“I’m not enough!”
Regression to age 2 or 3
Rationalization:
“Dad can’t love
any one.”
THE LORRAINE
INCIDENT AT AGE 27
HENRY ACTS OUT
“Oh, so it is true! I
really am not enough!”
“I am being victimized.”
“He betrays me!”
“Henry has ruined my life
and I must leave.
“Why does this always
happen to me?”
MARRIAGE BREAKS UP
First infidelity incident
reinforces,
“I am not enough.”
2nd infidelity incident proves
“I am not enough.”
3rd infidelity incident and big
blow-up proves
 “I will never
be enough!”
MARRIES JEFF:
Years later, Jeff acts out
with his daughter Lorraine.
THREAT OF FINAL BREAK-
UP WITH WITH JEFF.
Comes to U.S.
H E 
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H E O R I G I N 
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PART TWO
Conversations On
Radical Forgiveness

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2: Underlying Assumptions
S
ince all theories are based upon certain assump-
tions, it is important to have an understanding of
the spiri- tual assumptions underlying the theory
and practice of Radical Forgiveness. Before looking
at these though, it is worth noting that even the most
widely accepted theories are based on assumptions
for which there is very little hard evidence.
For example, did you know that not one shred of evi-
dence exists to support Darwin's Theory of Evolution?
Historically, that theory probably ranks as one of the
biggest assumptions ever made. It serves as the ba-
sic assumption behind all biological science and as
the very foundation on which much of our accepted sci-
entific 
truth
rests. However, the fact that no evidence
exists to prove this assumption true does not mean that
the theory is invalid or not useful.
We can say the same thing about the basic assump-
tions handed down throughout the ages about God, hu-
man nature, and the spiritual realm. While there is little
hard scientific evidence to support their validity, such
assumptions have been handed down to us as 
univer-
sal truths, or principles,
for centuries and have formed
the foundation for many great spiritual traditions through-
out the world. They certainly are foundational for Radi-
cal Forgiveness. Many of these assumptions are now
being proven by physicists to be well founded.
I have listed my assumptions in the hope that they help
you follow the logic of Radical Forgiveness. Each as-
sumption is expanded upon in length at various other
places in the book. I present them not as truths, nor
even beliefs, but as assumptions that I make that, for
me, provide some kind of basis for the Radical For-
giveness technology.
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