Copyright 2001, Colin C. Tipping

Under no circumstances mail this let-
ter!
The next day, write another letter. This one should carry
somewhat less anger and vengeance, although it still
does not let the person with whom you are angry off the
hook for what you believe they have done to you. How-
ever, it should make an effort to bring compassion, un-
derstanding, and generosity, as well as the possibility
of some sort of forgiveness, into the equation.
Do not
mail this letter either.
The following day, write a third letter. In this one, at-
tempt to describe a new interpretation of the situation
based on the principles of Radical Forgiveness. Since
this mimics the forgiveness worksheet, refer to the
notes on the worksheet as signposts for your letter, but
write it in your own words as best you can. (See Chap-
ter 20.) This may feel like a struggle at first, but perse-
vere. Remember, you will have to fake it for a while
before you make it.
None of these letters are ever mailed.
It is neither
necessary nor desirable to mail them. They are de-
signed to shift 
your 
energy, not the energy of the re-
cipient. Venting your feelings, rather than projecting
them once again onto the other person serves as the
objective. Sending the angry letter, in particular, ac-
complishes nothing whatsoever. Doing so would only
keep the attack-defense cycle going on and on, and
that would drag you deeper into the drama. Remem-
ber, as you shift your energy in the direction of Radical
Forgiveness, the energy of the other person changes
automatically.
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You either can keep the letters for future reference, or
you can use them in a forgiveness ritual. My personal
preference lies in using the ritual of fire to transform
them. Something powerful happens when you see your
words turn into ashes and rise up in a column of smoke.