Copyright 2001, Colin C. Tipping

willingness
to
be open to the idea that there is nothing to forgive.
The process is very subtle. Mind control or making things
happen at the gross level through affirmations, visualiza-
tion techniques or hypnosis has little relevance to Radical
Forgiveness. Neither does it require a high level of belief
or faith; nor do you need to be in a meditative or altered
state. All you need to do is use a simple tool that asks
little of you in the way of intelligence, discipline or skill. It
asks only that you express a tiny amount of willingness —
that’s all. In this second edition of the book, I have even
simplified the worksheet so that in some places you only
have to check boxes in answer to a few questions. It still
works.
Since forgiveness is always a ‘fake-it-’til you-make-it,’
proposition, we are indeed fortunate that it needs only
that small amount. If you had to wait until you had 100%
willingness to believe that the situation was perfect, you
would never begin the process.
The following story is an example of how this transforma-
tion can occur in an instant using one of the Radical For-
giveness tools - interestingly enough, the quickest and
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simplest of them all — the 
13 Steps to Radical Forgive-
ness.
Debi and the 13 Steps
Debi was a studio singer which means she sang jingles,
commercials, radio ID's and things like that. She was
considered to be among the best in the business. In 1999,
she came to study with me to become a Radical Forgive-
ness Coach.
At one point during the training, I wanted to teach her how
to facilitate the 
13 Steps to Radical Forgiveness.
It takes
no more than seven minutes and involves responding in
the affirmative to thirteen very simple questions.
The thirteen questions all relate to one’s willingness (the
secret ingredient) to see the perfection in the situation
whether they understand it or not. The answer to each
question is ‘Yes.’
I asked Debi if she had a situation to work with for this
process. She thought for a while and then said: 
"Yes,
here's something I've been upset about for a while. I'd
almost forgotten. About thirteen years ago, I was in a