Copyright 2001, Colin C. Tipping

Hall of Mirrors
The reflection does not always appear that readily or
as simply. For example, sometimes we do not identify
with the specific behavior as much as we do with the
underlying meaning it holds for us. A man who gets
angry about his wife's overeating and obesity may not
be resonating with any personal tendency to overeat;
instead, he might be resonating with her use of food to
avoid dealing with emotional problems, because it mir-
rors his tendency to run away from his own emotional
problems. Clearly, seeing what others mirror for us can
become like looking at the myriad of distorted images
in a hall of mirrors.
Automatic Reversal of Projection
The beauty of Radical Forgiveness lies in the fact that
it does not require that we recognize what we project.
We simply forgive the person for what is happening at
the time. In doing so, we automatically undo the projec-
tion, no matter how complicated the situation.
The rea-
son for this is simple in that the person represents the
original pain that caused us to project in the first place.
As we forgive him/her we clear that original pain.
 
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over, no matter what we see as our problems, only one
basic problem actually exists for any of us — our guilt
about separating from God. All other problems derive
from this original one.
Ironically, the people who seem to upset us the most
are those who, at the soul level, love and support us the
most. Almost always, and often at great expense to
themselves in terms of their own discomfort, these in-
dividuals try to teach us something about ourselves and
to encourage us to move towards healing. Remember,
this is not a personality-to-personality exchange. In fact,
more than likely the personalities of these individuals
clash terribly. Instead, the souls of each player set up
the scenario in the hope that the person will eventually
see the issue and heal.