Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life: How to Unlock Your Full Potential for Success and Achievement

Change Your Life
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MAKE EXCUSES FOR OTHERS
Since your mind can hold only one thought at a time, the instant
you start 
excusing
the other person you withdraw the energy or
fuel that the negative emotions of anger and resentment require
to get going and stay burning. You reassert your mental control.
You keep yourself calm and positive. In a little while, the situation
passes and you forget all about it. By substituting a positive
thought for a negative thought, you get rid of the negative emo-
tion, whatever it is.
If you have a major life problem, such as a divorce, a lost job, or
a failed investment, the same rule holds true. Stop telling yourself
(and anyone who will listen) why you are entitled to be angry or un-
happy. Instead, make excuses for the other person each time you
think about the situation until the negativity dies away. When the
fire of negative emotion goes out, you can then turn your attention
to something positive.
One of the most important rules for success and happiness is,
“Don’t be upset or worry about something that you can’t do any-
thing about.” Don’t criticize anyone for something that the person
cannot change. A famous law says, “If there is no solution, there is
no problem.”
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