By Jen Sincero Published by Running Press

4. FIND A TEMPORARY ROLE MODEL
Find  a  mentor  or  a  hero  or  a  role  model.  Get  clear  on  why  this  person  is
impressive and inspiring to you, and when faced with a challenge that leaves
you guessing how to react, ask yourself, What would my hero do?
Not caring what others think is a muscle that can take some time to build up,
so  use  this  trick  while  you’re  still  getting  strong,  and  before  you  know  it,
you’ll be able to ditch your hero and start asking yourself, What would I do?
5. LOVE YOURSELF
No matter what anyone else thinks.
IMPORTANT  NOTE  ABOUT  OUTSIDE  OPINIONS:  While  you  are
unauthorized  to  base  your  self-worth  on  what  other  people  think,  it  doesn’t
mean  you  should  miss  out  on  the  opportunity  to  benefit  from  outside  input
altogether. Especially input from those who know you well.
There  is  such  a  thing  as  constructive  criticism,  and  constructive
complimenting. But whether or not they are constructive depends on you.
For example, if people have been telling you for years that you’re a hothead,
that they feel like they can’t be open with you because the second you disagree
with them you blow up in their faces, ask yourself Is this true (be honest)? Can
I use this information to better myself and the lives of others? If the answer is
yes, commit to making the necessary changes; if the answer is no, let it go.
Same  goes  for  compliments.  If  people  constantly  tell  you  you’re  a  good
listener,  ask  yourself,  Is  this  compliment  true  for  me?  Can  I  use  this
information  to  better  myself  and  the  lives  of  others?  Again,  if  the  answer  is
yes, figure out how you can capitalize on it; if the answer is no, let it go.
Sometimes it’s easier for other people to see what we can’t see ourselves, so
if  they  can  help  us  connect  with  our  truths  and  live  happier,  more  authentic
lives, then it’s worth taking the time to listen.
It still ultimately comes down to what’s true for you, however, so the more
connected  to  your  inner  truth  you  are,  the  easier  it  will  be  to  use  outside
opinions to your advantage, rather than let them rule your life.

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The definition of screwing someone over is taking their money and doing a
lousy job or destroying their water source or enslaving populations, things like
that—your  mother  being  disappointed  or  your  father  disapproving  or  your
friends being outraged does not qualify as screwing someone over.

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CHAPTER 8:
WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE?
The big question is whether you are going to be able to say a hearty yes
to your adventure.