All praise is due only to Allaah. We laud Him and beseech His

making suitable 
arrangements for the guests, regardless of how many there 
are, to be seated on the floor and eat in the Sunnat manner.
Some people serve the food such that the guests have to come 
to one place to fill their plates and then go and sit down to eat. 
This is contrary to the proper etiquettes and inappropriate. A 
guest is an honoured visitor and should be treated as such. They 
should not be treated as though they are beggars coming to a 
soup-kitchen! 
They must be able to eat in peace and enjoy their food. The 
host should make suitable arrangements for the food to be 
served to the guests in an honourable fashion. 
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May Allaah Ta`ala grant us all the good fortune to follow the 
Sunnat practices as they deserve to be followed. Aameen! 
The ruling regarding people standing whilst 
eating and drinking at functions 
Regarding standing whilst eating or drinking, let us see what 
our beloved Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said, 
“It has 
been reported from Hadhrat Anas (radhiallahu anhu) that Nabi 
(sallallahu alayhi wasallam) prohibited from drinking whilst 
standing and eating whilst standing.”
[Kanzul Ummaal, page 
134, vol. 20] 
 
“Hadhrat Anas (radhiallahu anhu) reports from Nabi 
(sallallahu alayhi wasallam) that he prohibited a man from 
drinking whilst standing. Hadhrat Qatadha (radhiallahu anhu) 
enquired regarding standing and eating, and Hadhrat Anas 
(radhiallahu anhu) replied that this (standing and eating) was 
worse and more degrading (than standing whilst drinking).”
[Muslim Shareef, page 172, vol. 2] 
From these Ahaadith it is clear that to stand whilst eating and 
drinking is un-Islaamic and unbecoming a Muslim. It is 
contrary to the Sunnat and to the words of Nabi (sallallahu 
alayhi wasallam). In reality this manner of eating and drinking 
has been evolved from the enemies of Islaam – the kuffaar and 
the people of the west – hence its opposition is necessary upon 
Muslims.
Some words of advice for the groom 

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Every Muslim should endeavour to learn and inculcate the 
Islaamic teachings and Sunnats regarding marriage, before his 
own Nikah or that of his close ones – son, brother, etc. In this 
regard there are many Kitaabs which can and should be studied 
before a Nikah takes place in the home [Please note that these 
under-mentioned Kitaabs are in the Urdu language]: 
1. 
Tuhfah Zawjain
– Hadhrat Moulana Ashraf Ali 
Thaanwi (rahmatullah alayh) 
2. 
Islaami Shaadi
- Hadhrat Moulana Ashraf Ali 
Thaanwi (rahmatullah alayh) 
3. 
Islaahi Khawaateen
– Hadhrat Moulana Ashraf Ali 
Thaanwi (rahmatullah alayh) 
4. 
Islaam aur Tarbiyat-e-Aulaad
– Moulana Habeebullah 
Mukhtaar Saheb 
5. 
Islaami Shaadi
– Moulana Habeebullah Mukhtaar 
Saheb 
6. 
Islaami Dulhan
– Naseer Hussain Naqshbandi Ghafoori 
7. 
Tuhfah Khawateen
– Moulana Mufti Muhammad 
Aashiq Ilaahi Saheb 
8. 
Tuhfah Dulhan
– Moulana Muhammad Haneef Abdul 
Majeed Saheb 
From all theses advices, the most important advice is that as far 
as possible one should endeavour to keep a simple occasion. 
The more simple it is, the less expenses are incurred. The 
simpler the occasion, the more blessings it attracts, according to 
the words of Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wasallam),