All praise is due only to Allaah. We laud Him and beseech His

It is a major sin to cause dissention between the husband 
and wife
Question:
How is it to cause (incite) a husband to harbour bad 
thoughts about his wife? 
Answer:
It is stated in a Hadith that the person who causes 
dissention between husband and wife is not amongst us. [Abu 
Dawood, page 296, vol.1] 
It is clear that to cause ill-feelings between spouses is a major 
sin. It is said that the person who perpetrates this heinous act is 
not regarded as a Muslim. In the Qur`aan Majeed it is stated 
that to cause dissention between spouses is the speciality of the 
Jewish sorcerers.
We need not look far. In almost every home there is someone 
or the other who cause problem and create split-ups between 
husband and wife. Intermingling is one of the major causes of 
such problems. 
Request to the groom
Regarding all the advice we had offered in the previous pages 
to the groom’s parents, we make an appeal that the groom 
never ever use this as an excuse to deride his parents, that 
See 
you people had done this!
etc. This should never be the case. 
Respect for parents should always be maintained. Regardless of 
what your parents do, you should never ever e disrespectful to 

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fulfilling his duty, so what complaint can this wife forward 
now? 
Question: 
Can a wife place this pressure on her husband that 
she requires her own home, when the husband is not of the 
means? The husband pacifies the wife and exhorts her to 
exercise patience and he tells her that soon everything will 
come right. Will it be necessary for him to acquire a house 
under such circumstances. And also, if he does get a house, he 
will have to take a loan. 
Answer:
This is the foundation to all troubles, where the wife 
cannot live her in-laws. A separate house should be acquired by 
the husband. This is the responsibility of the husband. If he 
cannot afford a separate house, then he should arrange separate 
quarters for his wife, wherein she will have her own privacy 
and none will be able to intrude. She should be able to cook and 
live independently from anyone else, without having anyone 
(subjected) over her. The husband must provide for his wife 
within his means and she should not demand of him what he 
cannot afford. 
Question:
Is a woman within her rights to demand that her 
husband first acquire a home for her and only then will she 
leave her parent’s home, although he is not of the means? 
Answer:
It is incorrect for her to demand that he buy a house, 
however her request for separate quarters should be acceded to 
and the husband must see to it that she gets a separate place to 
stay, albeit at his parent’s home, where she will enjoy total 
privacy, without any intrusions.
Question:
Is it permissible in the Shariah for the groom’s 
family to demand household necessities from the bride’s 
family, on the occasion of the Nikah? 
Answer:
No such request is permissible from the bride’s family. 
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Question: 
Is it correct for the groom to live in the house given 
to his wife by her parents? 
Answer:
If the girl’s parents had given her the house (i.e. put it 
on her name) then she is the owner thereof. If she consents to 
his living there then it will be permissible. However, if the 
house was made over to the son-in-law on his request, then this 
will be like duress. It will not be permissible for him to stay 
there, and it is necessary to return the house to her parents.