All praise is due only to Allaah. We laud Him and beseech His

The object of (having) a wife
Allaah Ta`ala explains the creation of women thus, 
“And 
amongst His Signs is that He create for you from yourselves, 
wives, so that you may live (seek solace from) her. And He 
created between the two of you affection and mercy. Indeed in 
this are signs for the people who reflect.”
[Surah Room, Aayat 
21] 
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The tafseer of this Aayat is that women were created for men so 
that they (men) may seek solace and comfort in them. It is 
apparent that the object of Nikah is to create and engender 
peace, comfort and contentment. In that home where this is 
found, they have achieved the objective of marriage. Another 
factor is that men are saved from perpetrating Haraam, thanks 
to their wives. They are saved from roaming like animals and 
satisfying their base desires here, there and everywhere. 
It is obvious and clear that the objective of married life is 
peace, solace and contentment.
It is clear from the Tafseer of this Aayat that the main reason 
for the creation of women is so that the husband attains mental 
and physical satisfaction and contentment. So if this couple are 
to live together in one house with a whole lot of other family 
members, where there is constant strife, fights and arguments, 
how is there ever going to be peace and contentment achieved 
by anyone? The very object of marriage will be lost in this 
situation. May Allaah Ta`ala guide us all to practice on what is 
correct. 
Hereunder we will list a few questions and answers of Hadhrat 
Moulana Yusuf Ludhianwi (rahmatullah alayh), which 
appeared in the 
Jang
under the column of 
Aap ke Masaail aur 
oun ka hall
. 
Request by the wife for separate quarters
Question:
How is a husband supposed to gratify the wife when 
he tends to her every need insofar as food and clothing goes? 
Besides that, all his extra wealth is at her disposal as well. Their 
spare cash is kept one side and the wife has full permission to 
spend therefrom whenever she requires. 
Answer:
The maintenance of the wife is the responsibility of 
the husband, and according to your question this husband is 

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fulfilling his duty, so what complaint can this wife forward 
now? 
Question: 
Can a wife place this pressure on her husband that 
she requires her own home, when the husband is not of the 
means? The husband pacifies the wife and exhorts her to 
exercise patience and he tells her that soon everything will 
come right. Will it be necessary for him to acquire a house 
under such circumstances. And also, if he does get a house, he 
will have to take a loan. 
Answer:
This is the foundation to all troubles, where the wife 
cannot live her in-laws. A separate house should be acquired by 
the husband. This is the responsibility of the husband. If he 
cannot afford a separate house, then he should arrange separate 
quarters for his wife, wherein she will have her own privacy 
and none will be able to intrude. She should be able to cook and 
live independently from anyone else, without having anyone 
(subjected) over her. The husband must provide for his wife 
within his means and she should not demand of him what he 
cannot afford. 
Question:
Is a woman within her rights to demand that her 
husband first acquire a home for her and only then will she 
leave her parent’s home, although he is not of the means? 
Answer:
It is incorrect for her to demand that he buy a house, 
however her request for separate quarters should be acceded to 
and the husband must see to it that she gets a separate place to 
stay, albeit at his parent’s home, where she will enjoy total 
privacy, without any intrusions.
Question:
Is it permissible in the Shariah for the groom’s 
family to demand household necessities from the bride’s 
family, on the occasion of the Nikah? 
Answer:
No such request is permissible from the bride’s family. 
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Question: 
Is it correct for the groom to live in the house given 
to his wife by her parents? 
Answer:
If the girl’s parents had given her the house (i.e. put it 
on her name) then she is the owner thereof. If she consents to 
his living there then it will be permissible. However, if the 
house was made over to the son-in-law on his request, then this 
will be like duress. It will not be permissible for him to stay 
there, and it is necessary to return the house to her parents.