Yes, It’s Possible to Be Both
Extroverted and Introverted
By
Jon Negroni
on Jan 20, 2014 with
1 Comment
The Psychology of Introversion, Extraversion
and everything in between.
Whenever the topic of introverts and extroverts come up, a word is put in between
them that is actually misleading.
Versus.
When we think of these topics, we pit the concepts against each other, categorizing
individuals as being one or the other.
And yet more and more people will vehemently shout that they are “a little of both”
or within some kind of gray area. If the two concepts are so dissimilar, then why do
so many people feel this way?
What does it mean to be extroverted or
introverted?
First, let’s accurately define our terms. The ideas of “Extraversion” and “Introversion”
were popularized by Carl Jung, the founder of analytical psychology. He’s probably
most famous for developing the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, which is still being
used as a psychological assessment tool today.
Introverts, on the other hand, favor the internal. They prefer to be alone and need to
process their thoughts and feelings in a solitary fashion. An intro
vert isn’t necessarily
shy, but they are more likely to be overwhelmed by group activity.
These are clearly two separate extremes, but people like straddle the fence, so to
speak, when they are asked to pick a side. “I’m a little of both,” some people say.
But how can you be the both of two extremes at the same time?
The Continuum.
First, it’s difficult to be one or the other
all of the time
. Our behaviors fluctuate
continuously, and some people go back and forth between introversion and
extraversion many times in their life. This makes it difficult, then, for them to
categorize themselves.
Additionally, we misunderstand how the two concepts actually relate to each other
for each person. We automatically assume that the concepts lie on a continuum, so
being high in extraversion must mean that we are lower in introversion.
But if extraversion and introversion really do lie on a continuum, then that means it’s
completely possible for us to lie closer to the middle, which means some people can
have both an introverted and extroverted personality.
Since behaviors fluctuate all of the time, this also means that we can go up and
down the continuum many times in our lives, depending on life situations and certain
environments we come in contact with.
There’s actually a name for this by the way. The “middle” name for people who are
both introverted and extroverted is Ambiversion. An ambivert lies in the middle of the
introversion-extraversion spectrum. They find just as much satisfaction from external
activities as they do from internal ones.
Why does this matter?
At this point, you may be wondering why so many people find it important to
categorize themselves as introverted, extroverted or ambiverted. For most people,
it’s essential for us to better understand
what
we’re not.
In relationships of all types, we are bound to approach people who are very different
from us. You’ve probably noticed this. Though you may have a thorough
understanding of your own temperament and social preferences, it can be difficult to
empathize or even compromise with someone who is different.
For example: if you are an extrovert, you may love the idea of a surprise party. Who
wouldn’t love the idea of having all of their friends around them suddenly, you may
think. But the person you are dating may not think so. To them, the idea of a
surprise party may absolutely terrify them.
Simply put, understanding introversion, extraversion and how they relate helps us
understand people. Even better, it also helps us understand ourselves and what
truly makes us happy.
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