How do you feel about this person?
I think it's great that he (or she) doesn't hide behind a mask
I admire his (or her) ability to open up even to strangers
I admire his (or her) ability to put feelings into words
why:
that he (or she) expresses feelings and emotions freely helps him (or her)
connect a lot more with other people
this person is easy to deal with 'cause I always know what is on his (or her) mind and what he (or she) thinks about something
it doesn't take much time to get to know him (or her)
his (or her) openness encourages other people to open up, and this helps
to create a more open and trusting environment
I don't think it's good to be an open book all the time; people should be selective about who they tell about themselves
I believe that it's better to keep self-disclosure to conversations with close people
he (or she) discloses too much too soon
I think he (or she) shouldn't tell every single person he (or she) meets every little detail of his (or her) life
why:
his (or her) openness turns some people off
his (or her) openness isn't always appropriate
I don't think he (or she) does the right thing giving away too much personal information as it can be dangerous for him (or her)
I think giving away so much personal information can make him (or her) vulnerable
his (or her) presence strains me 'cause I'm nowhere near as open as
him (or her) his (or her) presence strains me 'cause he (or she) expects all other people to share as much information as he (or she) does, but I'm not as open as he (or she) is
by expressing what he (or she) is feeling, he (or she) not only passes some of his (or her) emotion to others, but he (or she) also has to deal with the aftermath of that disclosure
her being so open drives some guys away and makes them lose interest
ANSWERS
I think that my best friend Ann is a rare example of a person who expresses her feelings freely. We've been friends for many years, and I see her almost every day. So I know what I'm talking about. I mean I have enough evidence to prove that she's an open person. Oh no, to say 'open' is to say nothing. I think she's too open about her feelings.
If something is on her mind, she always lets people know about it whether they want it or not. For example, she tells people when something is bothering her, when something makes her feel excited, depressed or uncomfortable. She isn't afraid to tell people about painful or embarrassing situations that she experienced. And I know that she always says what she means, but not what other people want to hear. What's more, she posts a lot of personal details on Facebook and Instagram. I always joke that if we stopped being friends, I would still know as much information about her feelings and opinions as I do being her best friend and communicating with her every day.
On the one hand, I admire her ability to open up even to strangers 'cause this helps her connect a lot more with other people. Her openness encourages other people to open up, and this helps to create a more open and trusting environment. Also, Ann is very easy to deal with, and it doesn't take much time to get to know her. When she is offended, she shows it and says that she's offended and explains why. When she's angry or embarrassed, she doesn't hide her emotions as well. Dealing with her doesn't require guesswork to understand what her opinion about something is, whether she's happy or not and why. You know, I find it really stressful and annoying to deal with people who have a blank and emotionless expression on their faces at all times. I can't read anyone's mind. And I don't want to.
On the other hand, I don't think it's good to be an open book all the time. I always tell her that she should be selective about who she tells about herself. First of all, it can be dangerous for her. And this makes her vulnerable. Also, I think she discloses too much too soon. This turns some people off. I'm sure it would be much better if she kept self-disclosure to conversations with close people. And it seems to me her being too open is the main reason why she's still single. This drives some guys away and makes them lose interest. And I have to say that her openness isn't always appropriate. I mean that by expressing what she is feeling she not only passes some of her emotion to others, but she also has to be ready to deal with the aftermath of that disclosure. But she isn't.
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