Why Men Love Bitches

Rx: Treat Him Like a Friend
Think back to the beginning of your relationship when you first met
your partner. You didn’t nag him. Chances are, you treated him
much as you would a friend. You were relaxed; you had fun and
laughed more. You felt comfortable speaking your mind. He wasn’t
the “be all and end all” of your existence.
When you started nagging, your behavior began to tell a different
story. “I’m affected by every move you make.” For this reason and
this reason alone, nagging rewards him. Not because he enjoys it,
but because it reassures him you care.
ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #55
Negative attention is still attention.
It lets a man know that he has you—
right where he wants you.

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It doesn’t matter if you’re a high-powered litigation attorney and
can give a closing argument that makes his head spin. Nagging still
reassures him of where he stands and where you stand. It doesn’t
give him anything to worry about, think about, or mull over. It
doesn’t intrigue him or pull him in. Instead, he tunes you out.
Now you want to “talk” and he wants to do anything 
except
talk.
And if you press the issue, he’ll shift the blame.
How to Shift the Blame . . .
The Textbook Guide
First, tell her that the timing to discuss it isn’t right. Remember, it’s
never a good time to “talk.”
Before hearing a word, tell her she took everything wrong and is
being “too sensitive.”
Get a rotation going: Monday and Wednesday she’s
“overreacting.” Tuesday and Thursday she’s “blowing it out of
proportion.” And on weekends she’s “imagining things.”
Change the subject. Say, “You’re starting your period, aren’t you?”
If this doesn’t work, pick a fight. Be very combative, but repeatedly
point out that 
she
was the one who started the argument.
If she has six good points, and you have one semigood little point,
place all of the emphasis on your 
one semigood little point.
Don’t veer. Keep asking about your one little point over and over,
then demand a quick answer. If she hesitates, use this as evidence
that you are right.
If she is clearly right, find fault with her that has nothing to do with
the incident, and use that.
Be sure to create your own imaginary panel of experts (composed
of people she’s never met). Say, “Even Joe and Jim agree with me
and think you are being completely unreasonable.”

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When she tries to explain the same thing in a different way, roll your
eyes.
Appoint yourself her inhouse therapist. Say, “You do this to
yourself. Why
do you do this to yourself?”
Keep count of how many times she repeats herself, and be sure to
remind her.
It’s like boxing. Jab with the left; uppercut with the right. Then run . . .
As Muhammad Ali used to say: “Float like a butterfly; sting like a
bee.” Float by dodging the issue, and sting by asking why she
“can’t let it go.”
Keep dancing, and stay 
light
on those feet.
And, remember, it’s always 
her
fault. That’s your story, and you are
stickin’
to it.
The other thing he’ll do is tune you out completely. He can see
lips moving, but he cannot hear what you are saying. Like a remote
control in his head, you’ve been “muted.” Ideally his hope is that
you’ll “nag yourself silly” to the point of exhaustion. He figures if he
bides his time, eventually you’ll wear yourself out and go away.
Women differ in terms of how long it takes them to run out of
steam. Evidently, according to the men I interviewed, each woman
—as with clothing, perfume, and lovemaking—has her own
“personalized style” of nagging. Here are some just to name a few: