Why Men Love Bitches

SCENARIO
#1:
H
E CALLS YOU AND EXPECTS YOU TO BE AT HOME.
If the nice girl leaves, she
calls first to tell him where
she’ll be and what time she’ll
be back.
The bitch lets him think
about where she is every
now and then.
Often she’ll assure him that
her cell phone’s on, should
he want to get ahold of her.
She lets him wonder if she’s
outside his reach by not
always reporting her
whereabouts.
SCENARIO_2'>SCENARIO
#2:
H
E SAYS HE'LL CALL AT AROUND A CERTAIN TIME
AFTER HE GETS IN
. T
HE CALL IS FOUR HOURS LATE.
The nice girl yells at
him and says she
was worried. “You
should have called!”
The bitch isn’t so easily upset, so
she isn’t so easy to read. She may
or may not pick up the phone, which
makes him miss her.
SCENARIO
#3:
H
E SEEMS A LITTLE WITHDRAWN, PENSIVE, AND
NOT PARTICULARLY TALKATIVE.
The nice girl continually pries
and asks, “What are you
thinking about?” She worries
that he is pulling away.
The bitch is in her own
thoughts. She doesn’t
panic, which makes him
come her way.
SCENARIO #4:
H
E IS VERY LATE FOR A DATE AND KEEPS HER

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WAITING.
The nice girl waits, calls him on his
cell phone four times, and tells him
he should “value her more.”
The bitch waits a
halfhour and then
makes other plans.
The difference in these situations isn’t as much how you treat him
as how you treat yourself. The bitch’s behavior lets him know
without any words that she will not pull the plug on her life to
accommodate him.
Are You 
Too
 Nice?
A Pop Quiz
1. Do you feel guilty when you say no, or do you say no and
then second-guess yourself?
Yes No
2. Do you often try to tell your partner that you want to be
treated with respect?
Yes No
3. Do you find yourself bartering or negotiating for what you
want or need?
Yes No
4. Do you often pass up sleep or the need for personal time to
meet his needs?
Yes No
5. Do you regularly see him on short notice or when it is
convenient for him?
Yes No
6. Do you find that you repeat what you’ve asked for as though
he didn’t hear it the first time?
Yes No

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7. After a fight, are you always the first one to contact him or
apologize?
Yes No
8. Do you find you are much more doting and affectionate than
he is?
Yes No
9. Do you often feel depleted after he has been with you?
Yes No
10. Do you constantly want more attention or reassurance?
Yes No
If you’ve answered yes to five or more of these ten questions,
you are giving far more than you are receiving. Let’s explore why
giving yourself up is never in your best interests.
Women understand the concept of balance between work and
play. They balance time with family and time with friends. They
balance a job with getting an education. But when it comes to a
man, the nice girl abandons all sense of balance and immediately
makes the man the whole pie. But with a bitch, he is just a piece of
it. She keeps the other pieces intact.
It all starts out subtly. “What are you doing right now?” he asks
when he calls her from his cell phone. “Well, I was going to catch a
movie with a girlfriend,” she answers. The operative word is 
was
(past tense). Then he asks, “Want to hook up?” She pauses for two
seconds. “Okay.”
A man will try to get you to be very accessible because it’s
natural that he’ll want to make things more convenient for himself.
And he’ll do so by saying the following to pressure you to
accommodate him:
“I don’t like to plan things.”

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“I like to be spontaneous.”
“I like to fly by the seat of my pants.”
Another key factor that distinguishes the nice girl from the bitch is
how much of herself she’ll give up. Once you’re in a relationship
and he’s shown a pattern of being interested over time, then it’s
okay to be a little more spontaneous. In the beginning, however,
don’t make yourself so accessible. If you do, the relationship will
always be on his terms.
The nice girl will often cancel plans with a girlfriend if she gets a
last-minute date. The bitch will hold her own simply by keeping her
previously set plans. I know one bitchy woman whose partner
absolutely adores her. If she’s painting her toenails when he calls,
she’ll still say, “Thank you so much, but I’m a little busy right now.”
ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #12