Stephen R. Covey The 7 Habits of Highly Eff People pdf

These are alternative ways you may tend you perceive other areas of your life
 
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If your center is Spouse...
PLEASURE: Mutual, unifying activity or unimportant.
FRIENDS: Spouse is best or only friend. Only friends are "our" friends.
ENEMIES: Spouse is my defender, or common enemy provides source of marriage 
definition.
CHURCH: Activity to enjoy together. Subordinate to relationship.
SELF: Self-worth is spouse based. Highly vulnerable to spouse attitudes and behaviors.
PRINCIPLES: ideas which create and maintain relationship with spouse.
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