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Emotional Blackmail
Another similar tactic that may be used
by the manipulator is known as
emotional blackmail. During this
technique, the manipulator will seek to
inspire sympathy or guilt in their
subject. These two emotions are the
strongest ones for humans to feel and
they will often be enough to spur the
subject into the action that the
manipulator wants. The manipulator is
going to take advantage of this fact in
order to get the thing that they want;
they will use the sympathy or the guilt
that they inspire in order to coerce the
subject in to cooperating or helping
them. The degree of sympathy or guilt
will often be blown out of proportion,
making the subject even more likely to
help out in the situation.
The point of using this type of
blackmail is to play more on the
emotions of the subject. In regular
blackmail, the subject has a threat to
deal with, mostly in terms of physical
harm to themselves or someone they
love. With emotional blackmail, the
manipulator will work to inspire
emotions that are strong enough to
incite the subject to action. While the
subject may think that they are helping
out of their own free will, the
manipulator has worked to ensure that
they subject is assisting and will bring
out the emotions again whenever it is
needed.
Putting Down The Other
Person
There are other options available to the
manipulator if they would like to get
their subject to assist in reaching the
final goal. One technique that has quite
a bit of success is when the
manipulator is able to put down their
subject. In normal cases, if the
manipulator uses verbal skills in order
to put their subject down, they will run
a high risk of making the subject feel
as if a personal attack has been placed
on them. When the subject feels like
they are attacked, they will bristle and
not be willing to assist the manipulator
in the way that they want. Instead, the
subject will not like the manipulator
and will stay as far away from them as
possible, making it very difficult for
the manipulator to reach their final
goal.
This is why the manipulator is not
going to just go around and put down
their subject. They have to be more
discreet about the process and find a
way to do it without raising red flags or
making the subject feel like they are
being attacked. One way that this can
be done is through humor. Humor is
able to lower barriers that might
otherwise show up because humor is
funny and makes people feel good. The
manipulator is able to turn their insult
into a joke. Despite the fact that the put
down has been turned into a joke, it
will work just as effectively as if the
joke were not present without leaving
the visible scars on the subject.
Often, the manipulator will direct their
put down into the form of third person.
This helps them to mask what they are
saying more easily along with
providing an easy way to deny causing
harm if it comes back to haunt them
later on. For example, they might start
their put down with “Other people
think…” If the subject is still able to
guess that the comments were made at
them, then the manipulator would end
it with a throwaway line that might
include something like “present
company excepted, of course.”
The idea of the put down is to make the
subject feel like they are somehow less
than the manipulator. It raises the
manipulator up to a new level and
leaves the subject feeling like
something is wanting. The subject is
more likely to want to make things
better and to fix any wrong that they
have done. This will put the
manipulator in a position of power, and
they will be able to more easily get the
subject to assist them.
Lying
No matter what the end goal of the
manipulator is, lying is something that
they are an expert in and which they
will do all of the time to get what they
want. There are several different types
of lies that can be used by the
manipulator that will help them to
reach their final goals. One is that they
tell complete lies and others include
omitting parts of the truth from their
subjects.
When the manipulator lies, it is
because they know that the lie is going
to further their agenda much more
effectively than the truth would.
Telling someone the truth might make
them not want to help the manipulator
out and that would go completely
against their plans. Instead, the
manipulator will tell a lie to get the
subject convinced to do something for
them and by the time the subject finds
out about the lie, it is too late to fix the
issue.
The manipulator might also decide to
omit part of the truth in the stories that
they are telling. With this method, they
are going to tell parts of the truth, but
will keep certain things out that are
unsavory or which might hinder the
progress that is being made. These
kinds of lies can be just as dangerous
because it will become increasingly
difficult to tell what the truth of the
story is and what the lie is.
It is important to realize that when you
are dealing with the manipulator,
anything that they tell you may be a lie.
It is not a good idea to trust anything
that the manipulator is saying since
they are just trying to abuse and use
their subjects in order to reach that
final goal. The manipulator is going to
do and say anything possible, even
lying, to get what they want and they
are not going to feel sorry about it. As
long as they get what they want, they
are not too concerned about how it is
affecting the subject or others around
them.
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