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much they loved her, and they instinctively touched her and gently said how they wanted
her to live and to enjoy life once again. That was why they were so angry with her.”
“That sounds so simple,”
said the young man, “especially with something as
complicated as a drinking problem. Did it work?”
“Amazingly so,” the One Minute Manager insisted. “And now there are crisis
intervention centers all over the country. It’s not as simple as I’ve summarized it, of
course. But these three basic ingredients—telling people what they did wrong;
telling
people how you feel about it; and reminding people that they are valuable and
worthwhile—lead to significant improvements in people’s behavior.”
“That’s nothing short of incredible,” the young man said.
“I know it is,” the manager agreed.
“You said you’d give me two examples of how other people successfully use methods
like the One Minute Reprimand,” the young man said.
“Yes, of course. In the early 1970’s, a family psychiatrist in California also made the
same amazing discovery with children. He had read a lot about bonding—the emotional
ties people have to people. He knew what people needed. People need to be in contact
with people who care about them—to be accepted as valuable just because they are
people.
“The doctor also knew that people need to have a spade called a spade—to be pulled
up short by people who care when they are not behaving well.”
“How does that translate,” the young man wanted to know, “into practical action?”
“Each parent is taught to physically touch their child by
putting their hand on the
child’s shoulder, touching his arm, or if he is young actually sitting the child in their lap.
Then the parent tells the child exactly what he did wrong and how the parent feels about
it—and in no uncertain terms. (You can see that this is very like what the family
members did for the sick woman.) Finally, the parent takes a deep breath, and allows for
a few seconds of silence—so the child can
feel
whatever the parent is feeling. Then the
parent tells the youngster how valuable and important the child is to the parent.
“You see, it is very important when you are managing people to remember that
behavior and worth are not the same things. What
is really worthwhile is the
person
managing their own behavior. This is as true of each of us as managers as it is of each of
the people we are managing.
“In fact, if you know this,” the manager said, as he pointed to one of his favorite
plaques, “you will know the key to a really successful reprimand.
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