hearTLeSS Or praCTiCaL?
All this computing of relative worth may seem cold and calculat-
ing, and you do risk squeezing all the spontaneity out of life if
you always draw up a list before you act. (I have a friend who put
together a “pro” and “con” list of reasons to leave his wife. Now
that’s heartless. But I digress.) This objective figuring is in fact a
way to heed your heart by giving more time to activities that sup-
port your core values.
You would never consciously choose to neglect your kids. But
you might choose to spend less time with them by default, without
realizing you were doing so, when you take on the socially worthy
work of being your neighborhood recycling czar. Well-meaning
resolutions to “make it up to them” might quiet your conscience,
but it probably won’t translate into actual time spent.
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