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partner or the relationship so they won’t have to go that route.
Everybody  thought  Yvonne  was  having  a  flirtation.  She  was  getting
mysterious phone calls. She was often late picking up the kids. Her “nights out
with  the  girls”  doubled.  Her  mind  was  often  elsewhere.  Her  husband,  Charlie,
said she was just going through a phase. “All women go through times like this,”
he insisted. “It doesn’t mean she’s got a guy.”
Charlie’s  best  friend  urged  him  to  look  into  it.  But  Charlie  felt  that  if  he
confronted  the  reality—and  it  was  negative—his  world  would  come  crashing
down.  In  the  fixed  mindset,  he’d  have  to  confront  the  idea  that  either  (1)  the
woman he loved was a bad person, (2) he was a bad person and drove her away,
or (3) their relationship was bad and irreparable.
He  couldn’t  handle  any  of  those.  It  didn’t  occur  to  him  that  there  were
problems  that  could  be  solved,  that  she  was  sending  him  a  message  she
desperately  wanted  him  to  hear:  Don’t  take  me  for  granted.  I  need  more
attention.
A  growth  mindset  doesn’t  mean  he  would  necessarily  confront  her,  but  he
would  confront  it—the  situation.  He’d  think  about  what  was  wrong.  Maybe
explore the issue with a counselor. Make an informed decision about what to do
next. If there were problems to be solved, at least there’d be a chance.