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(b)
An important point is that you should perform
the Istikhaara Salaat yourself and not ask
someone else to do it for you. People say that
they are too sinful
to perform the Salaat
themselves. To such people we advise that they
first make Taubah from all their sins, because
Allaah Ta`ala forgives all sins, and thereafter
they should perform their Istikhaara Salaat. This
pleases Allaah Ta`ala.
(c)
Thirdly, is that one should not expect any
reply
to the Istikhaara to come in a dream. One needs
merely
to
consider
the
surrounding
circumstances regarding the matter at hand. If
there are no barriers or opposing factors, then
one should regard that to be in one’s best
interests and go ahead and act on what one
decides best. Here again, we need to remind that
mashwera is more important and efficacious
than Istikhaara. After having made Mashwera
with
the elders, one should go ahead and carry
out what settles on the heart. If one cannot
decide the matter, then Istikhaara Salaat may be
performed again and again for up to seven times,
until one gets some contentment. This can be
done over seven days or even on one day, where
one will perform 14 Rakaats of Nafl Salaat
during that day, after which (every two Rakaats)
the dua of Istikhaara will be read. This is the
Sunnat method and
every other method besides
this should be abstained from. May Allaah
Ta`ala bless all of us with the correct method of
making Istikhaara.
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It is imperative to look for the following
qualities in the prospective bride:
(1)
Deeni consciousness
The first quality that a boy must look for in a
prospective wife, is that she be Deen conscious. If the
prospective
bride is Deeni conscious, that is she fulfils
all the laws of Allaah Ta`ala and leads her life in
accordance to the Sunnah of Nabi (sallallahu alayhi
wasallam) then, the marriage bodes well and there will
be much blessings and affection between the spouses.
This marriage will be paradise on earth, and the
forthcoming offspring will be intelligent and pious.
When choosing a bride then
this quality is the most
important, in fact necessary for every Muslim man.
Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said,
“Marry women
for four reasons, her wealth, lineage, beauty and her
Deen. But hold on to (i.e. choose) to her for her Deen.”
[Mishkaat, Hadith no. 294 / Bukhaari / Muslim]
It is therefore imperative that every Muslim follow this
advice of Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam). He
should make the Deeni consciousness of his future bride
his first priority. Right from
the beginning he should
make it clear to his family that he is seeking a girl who
is pious,
ba Purdah
(girl who adorns hijaab) and one
who is well versed in Qur’aan and Hadith, and that they
should make dua and an effort to find such a partner for
him.
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Every Muslim man should understand this Islaam is that
single religion that teaches a girl to fulfil the rights of
her husband, in-laws, in fact the rights of all the family
members and even the rest of mankind, and also
animals. This Deen also teaches her to save herself from
backbiting, lies, evil thoughts, treachery, immodesty
etc, so that the train of life may continue smoothly.
Deen is what saves her from fulfilling evil and satanic
desires.
Deen is that helper wherewith she nurtures her children
with good character and sound morals.
The object of Nikah is mutual understanding, affection,
peace, contentment and a true bond of friendship. It is a
fact and certainty that the Deen plays the most major
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