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How to transform negative emotions
1. 
Identify:
to change your emotional state, you must identify what
emotion you’re feeling. In Sarah’s example, she felt sad and afraid. After
delving deeper, we identified that Sarah also felt neglected and insecure.
2. 
Challenge:
the next step would be to question yourself: Why do you feel
the way you do? What thoughts are responsible for this?
Sarah felt sad because she didn’t get a text back. The thought that played
back to her was that no one had time for her or was interested in her
because she was ugly. This made her feel lonely and insecure.
At this stage, you have consciously begun to observe your thoughts. A
lot of the beliefs we have are based on exaggeration, misconception and
opinions imposed on us by other people. Therefore, we can challenge
these erroneous ideas and judgements in our mind. We can analyse our
thought processes and change our negative thought patterns to more
positive ones, in a logical way.
Begin to challenge the beliefs behind your thoughts by questioning their
validity. For example, Sarah asked herself: Is it true that no one has time
for me because I’m ugly? In thinking deeply about this question, Sarah
began to learn a lot about why she felt the way she did. At this stage, you
can ask questions that force you to dig deeper. You can also ask extreme
questions, because they’ll inspire extreme answers. In our example,
Sarah went on to ask herself: Does this mean I’ll never be happy?

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Sarah pondered on these questions and saw that she was exaggerating
the situation. One man failing to text her back didn’t mean that she’d
never be happy. She was reminded that her joy wasn’t dependent on how
others interacted with her.
Posing questions to yourself can reveal limitations in your thinking, as
they did for Sarah. You’ll begin to realize that you have made false
assumptions and focused on the negative aspects of situations in your
life.
Try it. Perhaps bring up a past experience that made you unhappy, and
ask yourself direct questions that help you get to the heart of the matter.
It’s important to realize that we create our own sadness by attaching
negative conclusions to these past experiences in our subconscious mind.
Here we must challenge these conclusions, which are stored as lessons.
Failing to correct the negative lessons means they’re replayed in your
subconscious mind. Over time, these lessons on repeat can weigh you
down and induce depression.
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