particularly since I wouldn’t take part in his battle. I simply stayed silent and
observed, until I could distance myself.
It didn’t seem like this person cared deeply for other people’s wellbeing, or that
he wanted to prevent suffering in the world. His aggressive behaviour
contradicted his points. He simply needed to justify why he was right and that
his way was the only way. My beliefs shattered his truth that we should always
fight back, and without that truth, his identity became threatened.
This is the work of the ego. Your ego is your self-image created by thought. It’s
your social mask, one that constantly requires validation because it lives in fear
of losing its sense of identity. When you’re upset because someone doesn’t like
you, it’s your ego operating: you validate your existence based on their approval.
When they disapprove of you, you no longer feel good about who you are.
Our ego always wants to feel
significant and adored. It seeks
instant gratification. It wants to feel
more powerful than other people.
It’s the reason people buy things they don’t need – to impress people they don’t
even care about. It’s the reason we become bitter about other people’s successes.
It’s the reason greed exists and why we’re constantly striving to outdo others. It
prevents us from acting with love and understanding.
Unfortunately, many of us identify ourselves with a certain image throughout
our lives that’s created by our ego, and we have to keep on maintaining and
protecting it. If others don’t approve of the image of ourselves that we’ve
created, our identity becomes threatened and the ego will fear for its protection,
just as in the case here. My beliefs forced that person to question his own beliefs
and therefore question his identity, which imposed a threat. This is why he was
so quick to get defensive and to attack.
This happens a lot in life because of ego. People don’t say or ask things out of
curiosity; they simply want to prove others wrong. They want people to follow
their truth, not because they necessarily care about others, but because they fear
being wrong and not knowing who they are. There are a lot of high-drama
people in the world who seem to thrive in these toxic conditions.
I try to keep an open mind and to listen to other people’s perspectives. However,
I’ve also learned not to waste time on people who have no interest in what I have
to say, or why I say it. You must make sure that you don’t involuntarily take part
in the internal battles of others.
Discussing problems and sharing information is fine when the intention doesn’t
stem from the desire to make yourself feel superior through the belittlement of
others. This provides a false sense of self and consequently lowers your vibe.
There are better ways to spend your time than gossiping or involving yourself in
dramas. Instead, try to focus on your own life and on trying to improve it. Time
is precious and you should be investing it wisely by doing something
constructive that will make your life greater.
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