Discourse markers (so, right, okay)

Discourse markers (so, right, okay)

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Discourse markers are words or phrases like anyway, right, okay, as I say, to begin with. We use them to connect, organise and manage what we say or write or to express attitude:

[friends are talking]

A:
So, I’ve decided I’m going to go to the bank and ask for a car loan.

B:
That sounds like a good idea.

C:
Well, you need a car.

B:
Right.

A:
Anyway, I was wondering if either of you would teach me how to drive.

The discourse markers in this extract have a number of uses:so marks the beginning of a new part of the conversation.

well marks a change in the focus (from getting a car loan to needing a car).

right marks a response (B is agreeing with C).

anyway marks a shift in topic (from buying a new car to having driving lessons).

We use different discourse markers in speaking and writing. In speaking, the following discourse markers are very common:

anyway

like

right

you know

fine

now

so

I mean

good

oh

well

as I say

great

okay

mind you

for a start

In writing, the following discourse markers are common:

firstly

in addition

moreover

on the other hand

secondly

in conclusion

on the one hand

to begin with

thirdly

in sum

Discourse markers do not always have meanings that you will find in your dictionary. However, they do have certain functions, and some discourse markers, such as well, can have a number of functions.

See also:

Actual and actually

Like

Look

Mind

Okay, OK

Well

Discourse markers that organise what we say
Some discourse markers are used to start and to end conversations. Some are used to start new topics or to change topics.

Starting a conversation or talk

A:
Right, let’s get started. We need to get the suitcases into the car.

B:
Okay. I’ll do that. Katie, will you help me?

[at the start of a radio interview]

Now, we have with us in the studio today someone you will all know from television. John Rice, welcome to the show.

See also:

Okay, OK

Ending a conversation
[A mother (A) and daughter (B) on the telephone]

A:
So we’ll see you Sunday, Liz.

B:
Right, okay Mum.

A:
Okay, see you then, love.

B:
Bye, Mum. Thanks for calling.

A:
Bye, Liz.

[At the end of a meeting]

A:
Anyway, is that it? Has anyone got any questions?

B:
No. I think we’re done.

A:
Right, fine, thanks everyone for coming. We’ll circulate the documents tomorrow and make some follow-up calls about the project.

See also:

So

Okay, OK

Changing or managing a topic
A:
We went to town to buy wallpaper to match the carpet.

B:
Did you try Keanes? They have a sale.

A:
We looked there, but Jim said he thought it was too expensive and he didn’t like any of their designs.

B:
What does he like?

A:
He likes geometric shapes. He hates flowers. Anyway, we eventually found some that we both liked and when we went to pay for it, we realised that neither of us had brought any money. (Anyway marks a return to the main topic of buying wallpaper.)

Ordering what we say

We also use discourse markers to order or sequence what we say. Some of the common words and phrases which we use for this are:

and

in general

second

to sum up

and then

in the end

*secondly

what’s more

first (of all)

last of all

so

well

*firstly

next

lastly

a … b

for a start

on top of that

third(ly)

firstly and secondly are more formal than first and second.

A:
I think Sheila might be having some financial problems at the moment.

B:
I don’t think so, Caroline. For a start, she has all the money that her aunt gave her. What’s more, she has a good job and she seems to have a good lifestyle.

Firstly, we are going to look at how to write an essay. Secondly we are going to look at what makes a good essay and what makes a bad one. Lastly, we’re going to do some writing activities.

We can use the letters of the alphabet (a, b and c), to list reasons or arguments for something:

There are two reasons why I think it’s a bad idea, a because it’ll cost too much money, and b because it’ll take such a long time.

See also:

Numbers: first, second, third

Discourse markers that monitor what we say

As we talk, we monitor (or listen to) what we are saying and how our listener is responding to what they hear. We often rephrase or change what we say depending on how our listener is responding. We use words and phrases such as well, I mean, in other words, the thing is, you know, you know what I mean, you see, what I mean is.

Saying something in another way

Sometimes, as we talk, we add phrases to show our listener that we are going to rephrase, repeat or change what we are saying. These discourse markers help to make what we say clearer for the listener:

I just had to leave early. What I mean is I hated the show. It just wasn’t funny.

You exercise regularly, you have a good diet and you don’t have too much stress. In other words, I think you have nothing to worry about. Your health seems very good.

I think I’ve found a house I’d like to buy. Well it’s an apartment actually. It’s ideal for me.

See also:

Actual and actually

I mean

Well

Shared knowledge
When we talk, we think about how much knowledge we share with our listener. We often mark what we think is old, shared or expected knowledge with you know and we mark new knowledge that we see as not shared with the listener with phrases like see, you see, the thing is:

You know, hiring a car was a great idea. (The speaker and the listener know about hiring the car.)

A:
Why don’t you come and stay with me when you’re in Lisbon?

B:
It’d be difficult. I have to be back in Dublin by Friday. You see, my sister is getting married on Saturday so I won’t have time to visit. (B assumes that A doesn’t know about her sister’s wedding. This is new information)

See also:

See

You know

You see

Discourse markers as responses
As we listen to someone speaking, we usually show our response to what we hear either by gesture (head nod) or by a short response (Mm, yeah, really, that’s a shame). This shows that we are listening to and interested in what is being said. We call these short responses ‘response tokens’.

Common response tokens include:

absolutely

fine

okay

wow

(all) right

good

quite (more formal)

yeah

certainly

great

really

yes

definitely

I see

sure

exactly

no

wonderful

that’s great/interesting/amazing/awful, etc.

We use response tokens for a number of functions:

To show interest and to show that we want the speaker to continue
A:
So he opened the door.

B:
Yeah.

A:
And he went in very quietly without waking her.

B:
Right.

A:
He opened her bag and…

To show surprise

A:
We’ve decided to go to Africa for a month next year.

B:
Oh really!

To show sympathy

A:
He can’t play soccer for at least six months. He’s broken his leg.

B:
That’s terrible.

See also:

Adverbs as discourse markers (anyway, finally)

Of course

Discourse markers showing attitude

Some expressions are used to mark attitude or point of view in speaking or writing.

Common expressions of attitude are:

actually

frankly

I think

(I’m) sorry

admittedly

hopefully

literally

surprisingly

amazingly

honestly

naturally

thankfully

basically

ideally

no doubt

to be honest

certainly

if you ask me

obviously

to tell you the truth

clearly

I’m afraid

of course

understandably

confidentially

I must admit

predictably

undoubtedly

definitely

I must say

really

unfortunately

essentially

in fact

sadly

fortunately

indeed

seriously

If you ask me, Neil is making a big mistake leaving his job to go travelling with his friends.

We will obviously have to pay for the damage done to the window.

The whole problem has been caused, I think, by having too many cars on the road at busy times.

Sadly, Hilda has decided not to come with us.

See also:

Actual and actually

Think

Discourse markers: sounding less direct

We are careful when we speak not to sound too direct or forceful. We use words and phrases such as like, maybe, sort of to soften what we say (hedges).

We often use these words and expressions as hedges:

apparently

kind of

perhaps

roughly

arguably

like

presumably

sort of/ kind of*

I think

maybe

probably

surely

just

* sort of is more common in British English; kind of is more common in American English.

Can I just ask you a question?

We can probably add some more water to the sauce.

Is this perhaps one of your first times driving a car?

Compare
There’s a new restaurant in town. We should probably try it next weekend.

The statement is hedged or softened so as not to sound too strong or forceful.

There’s a new restaurant in town. We should try it next weekend.

The statement is not hedged and it sounds more direct and forceful.

See also:

Hedges (just)

Think

Like

Mind

Well

Discourse markers: um and erm

We can use um to introduce a new topic carefully:

Um, could I ask you a personal question?

Um, there’s something else we need to talk about.

We can use erm when we pause before saying something, especially when we are not sure about what to say:

He’s… erm he’s not very pleased with your work, I’m afraid.

Her last book was called… erm what was it? I can’t remember the name.