Requirements to
Successfully Manipulate
A successful manipulator must have
tactics at hand that will make them
successful at using people to get to
their own final goal. While there are
several theories on what makes a
successful manipulator, we will take a
look at the 3 requirements that have
been set out by George K. Simon, a
successful psychology author.
According to Simon, the manipulator
will need to:
1. Be able to conceal
their aggressive
behaviors and
intentions from the
subject.
2. Be able to determine
the vulnerabilities of
their intended subject
or victims in order to
determine which
tactics will be the
most effective in
reaching their goals.
3. Have some level of
ruthlessness readily
available so that they
will not need to deal
with any qualms that
may arise due to
harming the subjects if
it comes to that. This
harm can be either
physical or emotional.
The first requirement that the
manipulator has to accomplish in order
to successfully manipulate their
subjects is to conceal their aggressive
behaviors and intentions. If the
manipulator goes around telling
everyone their plans or always acts
mean to others, no one is going to stick
around long enough to be manipulated.
Rather, the manipulator needs to have
the ability to conceal their thoughts
from others and act like everything is
normal. Often, those who are being
manipulated will not realize it, at least
not in the beginning. The manipulator
will be sweet, act like their best friend,
and perhaps help them out with some
issue or another. By the time the
subject is aware of the issue, the
manipulator has enough information on
them to coerce the subject into
continuing on.
Next, the manipulator will need to have
the capability of determining what the
vulnerabilities of their intended victim
or victims are. This can help them to
determine which tactics need to be
used in order to reach the overall goal.
Sometimes the manipulator may be
able to do this step through a little bit
of observation while other times they
are going to need to have some kind of
interaction with the subject before
coming up with the full plan.
The third requirement is that the
manipulator needs to be ruthless. It is
not going to go well if the manipulator
puts in all their work and then worries
about how the subject is going to fair in
the end. If they did care about the
subject, it is not likely that they would
be going through with this plan at all.
The manipulator is not going to care
about the subject at all and does not
really care if any harm, either physical
or emotional, befalls the subject as
long as the overall goal is met.
One reason that manipulators are so
successful is that the subject often does
not realize they are being manipulated
until later on in the process. They may
think that everything is going along
just fine; perhaps they think that they
have made a new friend in the
manipulator. By the time the subject
realizes they are being used or no
longer wants to be a part of the process,
they are stuck. The manipulator will be
able to use many different tactics,
including emotional blackmail to get
their way in the end.
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