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themselves must make mistakes, make decisions and bear the consequences for them. They may
also have feelings that are not what their parents would like.
To build self-confidence in your child, it is important to assess your expectations of your child
and stop demanding that they follow the path that their parents chose for them. Sometimes it is
parental ambition that interferes with the healthy psychological development of a child. This tip
is especially important for school children!
3. Natural consequences: fewer words - more action.
The well-known psychologist Ekaterina Murashova adheres to this recommendation. It is
difficult for young children to understand what will happen after one or another of their actions,
even if they have been told this many times. This can only be remembered by personal
experience. The role of the parent is to prompt, regret, and help cope with the consequences of
such an experience.
I rode a scooter without protection - I hurt my knee.
I teased other children - I was left alone, no one is playing with you.
I ate too many sweets - my stomach hurts.
Didn't throw your favorite sweater into the wash on time - it remained dirty and you can't put it
on.
Poorly assembled a schoolbag - the teacher scolded in front of everyone in the class.
Didn't do homework - got a deuce.
I was late home from a walk - I was left without an interesting family program.
If you want to say something to a child, say it 1 time. If necessary, explain how to do this, help
and show if the child cannot cope on his own. All other requests, reminders and remarks will be
perceived as "pilezh".
4. Gradual growth of responsibility.
A direct consequence of the previous advice. Nothing helps to increase a child's self-confidence
more than making a decision on his own and making it successful.
Age "I myself!" - set the time in advance when the baby can do everything on his own, and you
are in no hurry, and let him acquire new skills.
4-5 years - entrust your child with simple household chores for which he will be responsible. If
he doesn’t do them, mark it, but DO NOT do the work for him. It is important that the
consequences of non-compliance are obvious: setting the table, collecting dirty dishes, hanging
small linen, washing a dog's or cat's bowls, etc.
6-7 years old - just choosing from several suggested alternatives will help the child develop self-
confidence, and helping in choosing family activities, preparing gifts or working together with
parents develops a sense of responsibility and willpower.
5. Praise not the child, but the work; love not work, but a child.
This advice is given by the psychologists of the Rostok Child Support Center. Sometimes, in an
impulse to improve the child's self-esteem, parents praise him for the slightest success. In fact,
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