All praise is due only to Allaah. We laud Him and beseech His

We have replaced the happiness with stress and grief.
We 
spend money like water running out of a tap to satisfy all our 
un-Islaamic and bestial desires and whims at fulfilling these 
customs which have become attached to Nikahs. 
Most of us will agree to this wastage and un-Islaamic ways 
verbally, but when it comes to practice, extremely few put into 
practice what the Shariah calls for. All the others fall into the 
same trap of customs and cultural traditions.
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The only way to curb and stem these evil practices is that the 
bold ones amongst us must take the initiative and practice on 
what the Shariah and Sunnat calls for. In this way, Insha-Allaah 
Ta'ala, more and more people will follow suit and the back of 
these customs will be broken. These customs which have made 
the occasion of Nikah a form of punishment rather than one of 
happiness and blessings. 
If the wealthy ones will not abandon their evil ways in this 
regard, then at least the bourgeoisie (middle-class) should take 
up the courage and not waste their hard-earned money in these 
lavish ways. 
In this regard, if the under-mentioned points are taken 
cognisance of, then Insha-Allaah Ta`ala all these evils will 
be eradicated: 
 
1. 
Besides the occasions of Nikah and Walimah, we 
should make a firm resolution to completely eradicate and 
abandon all other occasions which take place, like 
mendhi-
night
, 
engagement party, 
etc. 
 
If any or both the partners wish to gift something to the 
other, with sincerity and love, then it should be done 
discreetly and without any announcement, pomp or show. 
 
2. 
Do not regard any specific way or practice as