All praise is due only to Allaah. We laud Him and beseech His

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Points: …………………. 
11.
Are your children acquiring Deeni knowledge in a 
suitable environment? If not, are you making special 
arrangements in consultation with some Ulama in your 
locality to have them taught? 
Answer:…………………………………………………………………
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5.
When you hear any complaint about your wife from 
your mother or sisters, then instead of reacting 
immediately by shouting, screaming or (Allaah Ta`ala 
forbid) hitting her, do you wait for two Salaat times to 
pass and then with wisdom and affection you explain 
the matter to your wife? 
Answer:…………………………………………………………………
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Points: …………………. 
6.
If you hear any complaints about your mother from 
your wife, then instead of reprimanding your mother, 
you counsel your wife with affection and advise her on 
the virtues of adopting patience? 
Answer:…………………………………………………………………
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Points: …………………. 
7.
If you live with your parents and other family members 
and realise that the environment is tense, then do you 
make arrangements to find separate quarters, even if it 
be rented, or at least to get a separate kitchen for your 
wife? 
Answer:…………………………………………………………………
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Points: …………………. 
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8.
Although you live separately from your parents, do you 
send your children regularly to visit and also send with 
them some little gift? 
Answer:…………………………………………………………………
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Points: …………………. 
9.
Together with preparing your own 
Wasiyyat
, did you 
also encourage our wife and children to do the same? 
And how many times have you read and studied the 
relevant Kitaabs on this subject to them? 
Answer:…………………………………………………………………
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Points: …………………. 
10.
Do you, every month, according to your means, 
stipulate a stipend for your wife as her own spending 
money? 
Answer:…………………………………………………………………
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Points: …………………. 
11.
Are your children acquiring Deeni knowledge in a 
suitable environment? If not, are you making special 
arrangements in consultation with some Ulama in your 
locality to have them taught? 
Answer:…………………………………………………………………
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12.
Do you counsel your wife with loving tones, if she 
falters, instead of arguing and confronting her? And do 
you also make dua for her reformation? How many 
times have you made 
Salaatul Hajaat
for this purpose 
alone? 
Answer:…………………………………………………………………
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Points: …………………. 
13.
Do you praise your wife on her attire, cooking and other 
issues, so as to give her encouragement? 
Answer:…………………………………………………………………
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Points: …………………. 
14.
If you are newly married, have you consulted with a 
Mufti regarding adopting a contraceptive method 
between the birth of your children, with the intention 
that: The children are healthy, each child can get 
undivided attention from the parents and each child is 
afforded the opportunity to complete the full Shar`i 
duration of being breastfed?