All praise is due only to Allaah. We laud Him and beseech His

Ijaab 
and
Qubool
are the chief 
constituents of a Nikah function, therefore special consideration 
should be given to listening attentively to these. Those who 
arrange for the function must make special arrangements for a 
loudspeaker to be installed.
2). 
After lauding praises unto Allaah Ta'ala and sending 
Durood to Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wasallam), the next thing 
which the Khutbah stresses on is Taqwa. This is done so that 
before the couple commence their new journey through life, 
this factor is invisibly imbibed into their hearts, which 
contributes to a permanent bond of affection, which does not 
dwindle, even after all the hard knocks it suffers.

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about and has experience in such matters, will know full well 
that a sound and trouble-free union depends wholly on Taqwa. 
Taqwa is imperative for a happy union and for the couple to be 
able to fulfil each other’s rights. The relationship between 
husband and wife is an extremely delicate one. There is no 
other such partnership that exists. All their innermost feelings 
and aspirations, etc. are laid bare to each other. 
A person is able to conceal his/her innermost feelings and 
conditions to others, and mix and communicate in without 
letting on one’s true disposition, but when it comes to husband-
wife relationship, then all the true and inner feelings and habits, 
etc. are exposed. One cannot hide one inner-self forever. In a 
marriage union, one is bound to expose one’s true self sooner 
or later. If the union is devoid of Taqwa, then living together 
becomes difficult. 
One wife undergoes countless difficulties which will never be 
brought before any court of law. Her many complaints, which 
leave alone a court, will never even be brought before some 
close relative of hers. 
Similarly, the husband is faced with many problems which 
neither he nor anyone else can solve. He will have to face and 
‘live’ with it in this ephemeral abode. 
Besides Taqwa, both of them have no other solution to their 
problems and complaints. 
They are both a trust unto each other and they will each have to 
answer to Allaah Ta`ala for that trust. In this world, they will 
have no one to answer to and may do as they please, but the 
Day will come when they will stand before Allaah Ta`ala and 
answer for every little right which had not been fulfilled. The 
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reality of this fact, is what we call ‘Taqwa’. The reality of this 
makes a person realise, even in his isolation, where none can 
see him. 
Our beloved Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) desired that 
when a man and woman accept each other as life-partners and 
before they begin their journey, then this reality must dawn on 
their hearts, so that the feelings of affection they feel for one 
another is not merely a temporary thing which expires in this 
world. He desired that their affection be nurtured under the 
shade of Taqwa, that it be purified of any ulterior motives and 
that they lead lives of preferring the one over the other.
It is for this reason precisely that Nabi (sallallahu alayhi 
wasallam) chose the Aayaat which mention Taqwa, which form 
the basis.” 
Summary 
1). 
The Khutbah and 
Ijaab 
and
Qubool
are the chief 
constituents of a Nikah function, therefore special consideration 
should be given to listening attentively to these. Those who 
arrange for the function must make special arrangements for a 
loudspeaker to be installed.
2). 
After lauding praises unto Allaah Ta'ala and sending 
Durood to Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wasallam), the next thing 
which the Khutbah stresses on is Taqwa. This is done so that 
before the couple commence their new journey through life, 
this factor is invisibly imbibed into their hearts, which 
contributes to a permanent bond of affection, which does not 
dwindle, even after all the hard knocks it suffers.

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Respected Readers, if this Kitaab comes into your hands after 
you have already entered into a marriage union, then too it is 
not too late. Whatever has been mentioned already can be 
rectified and remembered. 
The right of dowry (mehr) 
Among the rights of wives the first is the 
mehr
(dowry), which 
is necessary upon the husband. Generally, no Nikah is 
performed without a dowry being stipulated, but many 
shortcomings and deficiencies are being perpetrated in this 
regard. We will list these, and make dua that Allaah Ta`ala 
guide us all in rectifying and reforming ourselves and also that 
He grant us the taufeeq to follow the blessed Sunnat of Nabi 
(sallallahu alayhi wasallam), in every respect. 
When a Muslim makes up his mind to lead a life whereby he 
wants to please only Allaah Ta`ala, and not to consider or give 
preference to customs, family and traditions, that his attention 
will be focussed solely and wholly towards pleasing Allaah 
Ta`ala and following the Sunnah of Nabi (sallallahu alayhi 
wasallam), and he makes an effort by speaking to his family in 
bringing alive the Sunnat of Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wasallam), 
then Allaah Ta`ala will come to the aid of such a person, and 
make him the means of the guidance of people where his every 
action will make alive a Sunnat.
May Allaah Ta'ala use us all to bring alive the Sunnah of Nabi 
(sallallahu alayhi wasallam) and also grant us death on this.
Generally, the following shortcomings are found with regard to 
dowry: 
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1). 
One shortcoming originates from the side of the girl’s 
parents and close relatives, that when they stipulate the 
mehr
, 
they do not consider the rank and status of the girl. They try to 
get the largest amount possible, which sometimes leads to 
acrimony and arguments. In the worst cases we even sometimes 
see these arguments lead to the termination of the entire Nikah 
arrangement. People regard seeking an exorbitant 
mehr
as a 
tool of superiority and honour, whereas in reality this is 
foolhardiness and ignorance. If the amount of 
mehr
signified 
honour and nobility, then the dowries of Nabi (sallallahu alayhi 
wasallam) and the Sahaabah (radhiallahu anhum) would have 
been exorbitant and steep.