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“O Aishah! If you are
totally innocent then Allaah Ta`ala will extricate you but if you
are guilty, then you should seek repentance from Allaah
Ta`ala.”
This brought great grief to Hadhrat Aishah
(radhiallahu anha), who replied,
“I do not know what reply to
give to you. If I tell you that I am totally innocent, and Allaah
Ta`ala knows that I am innocent, then you people will not
accept it in your hearts, but if I concede guilt, whilst Allaah
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Ta`ala knows that I am innocent thereof, then you people will
readily accept that. I can only say now what Hadhrat Ya`qub
(alaihis salaam) said, ‘
' ن )ا *ا و + ,#$
ن-#.
’’.
”
Saying this, Hadhrat Aishah (radhiallahu anha) turned around
on her bed and started crying. Not long thereafter, Nabi
(sallallahu alayhi wasallam) blessed countenance changed as he
began receiving Wahi. No sooner had the Wahi terminated, he
turned to Hadhrat Aishah (radhiallahu anha) and said,
“Glad
tidings, O Aishah!
Listen, Allaah Ta`ala ha exonerated you of
all charges.”
Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) then recited
those Aayaat which were revealed to him on that occasion.
Upon hearing those Aayaat, everyone in the house became so
ecstatic and their faces radiated with joy. Hadhrat Aishah’s
(radhiallahu anha) mother turned to her and said,
“O Aishah!
Get up and thank Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam).”
Hadhrat Aishah (radhiallahu anha) replied,
“I take an oath by
Allaah Ta`ala that I will not get up and go now to Rasulullah
(sallallahu alayhi wasallam) and I will not laud praises on
anyone besides my Rabb, because he (sallallahu alaihi
wasallam) had also regarded me as being guilty and soiled.
Allaah Ta`ala had exonerated and extricated me (from all guilt
and accusations).”
[Bukhaari Shareef, Hadith no. 2467]
Men must now realise that the words which Hadhrat Aishah
(radhiallahu anha) used would be regarded as normal given the
situation and relationship shared between husband and wife.
The Shariah has not prescribed any punishment for such
outbursts from women. If women were not allowed these little
whimsical outbursts then Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wasallam)
would most certainly have cautioned here against it. Such
words as used by her seemed excessive, but it is not possible
that Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) would have overlooked a
Shar`i transgression (had it been one). The bond of Nikah is
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such a great aspect in the lives of human beings, so had this
attitude of Hadhrat Aishah (radhiallahu anha) been distasteful
to Islaamic teachings, Allaah Ta`ala or Nabi (sallallahu alayhi
wasallam) would have warned against it.
Once some wives of Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) had
demanded more money from Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wasallam),
because they felt that they were not getting sufficient to cover
their needs, this was contrary to the teachings and lifestyle of
Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wasallam). Immediately an Aayat was
revealed warning them,
“O Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wasallam),
tell your wives, ‘If you desire the worldly life and its
attractions, -- Then come! I will make a provision for you and
set you free in a handsome manner (divorce).’”
Just see how Allaah Ta`ala cautioned the noble wives of Nabi
(sallallahu alayhi wasallam) when they sought extra money,
and on this delicate statement of Hadhrat Aishah (radhiallahu
anha) nothing was said. And yet we tend to become upset at the
smallest untoward statement from our wives. May Allaah
Ta`ala guide us all and grant us the patience required to
understand right from wrong.
Many men have this preconceived notion regarding what they
expect from women, and if the woman falls short, then they are
severely reprimanded and rebuked. It is the right of women that
they be understood for their ‘slip-ups’. It is mentioned in a
Hadith that women are created from a crooked rib, and that
crookedness cannot be straightened. If a man tries to straighten
the crookedness of the woman, he may ‘break’ her in the
process.
When the wife and husband are both ill and bed-ridden, the
wife will make a concerted effort to get herself up and be of
service to her ill husband. She will forget her state of ill health
for his benefit.
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