All praise is due only to Allaah. We laud Him and beseech His

Dissension between spouses is the cause of a multitude of 
problems
Dissention and strife between spouses is the root of all conflict 
and discord (in society), that is, it gives rise to many other 
evils. [
Malfoothaat Kamaalat Ashrafiya, page 46
] 
Wives will be better than the 
Hoors 
(damsels of Jannat)
These (worldly) wives will be better and more lovely than the 
Hoors
. To desire beauty is neither contrary to the intellect nor 
tradition, therefore to make dua to unite with one’s wife (in 
Jannat) is also neither contrary to the intellect nor tradition. 
[
Ibid., page 118
] 
The wife is a sincere friend
The following subject matter is that of Hadhrat Moulana 
Abdullah Saheb, an Ustaad of Daarul Uloom Karachi, which 
appeared in the periodical 
Al-Balaagh
. We request that all 
readers remember Hadhrat Moulana in their duas. 
The relationship between husband and wife is two-fold – one is 
very delicate and the other deep. If we look carefully at the 

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Affection for the wife which is not detrimental
Question:
Hadhrat I am involved in an illness, where I am 
besotted with y wife such that it affects my normal activities. I 
feel it needs to remedied urgently and this affection be 
channelled towards Allaah Ta`ala. I carry out my other 
activities very carelessly and sometimes leave them out 
altogether and the cause for this is my affection towards my 
wife. 
Answer:
Regardless of how much affection one has for one’s 
wife, it is not detrimental. However that affection should not be 
a preventive or lead to carelessness and abandonment of one’s 
Deeni activities. Such matters are voluntary and depend on 
one’s ability. 
Question: 
I have a very deep affection for my wife. She has 
now passed away some time ago, and yet I cannot get thoughts 
of her out of my mind. I visit the graveyard every Jumuah and 
sit at her gravesite, and am reluctant to go away from there. I 
‘hear’ her voice all the time and cannot get her out of my mind. 
I have this fear that Allaah Ta`ala forbid that I die in this state, 
where I am constantly thinking of her. 
Answer:
To have a Halaal affection is no harm at all, as long as 
it does not impede or hamper one’s Deeni duties and 
obligations. In fact such affection and yearning are natural. Be 
at ease that if your death comes whilst you are in this state of 
grief, there is no harm or sin in it for you. We do, however 
suggest that you consider remarrying. And Allaah Ta`ala 
knows best. [
Tarbiyatus Saalik, part 1, page 748
]