All praise is due only to Allaah. We laud Him and beseech His

To increase love for the wife is a sign of Taqwa
Question:
Can you please advise me regarding a natural 
occurrence in my life, where over the years I have become 
more fond of my wife. Is this in any way harmful to me? 
Answer:
This in reality is Sunnat. This is the fruit of Taqwa. 
When the Taqwa increases in a person then his affection for his 
increases. 
Connection with the wife
Question:
I do have a connection with my wife, but it is as 
though it is a calamity on me. Many a times I get scared. When 
I am with her then also I have a strong affection towards her. 
Once when she was very ill, then I felt in my heart that it is 
better she dies so that she may attain relief, however I pushed 
away all such thoughts, lest it be sinful. Alhamdulillah, she 
recovered. 
Answer: 
Yes, such thoughts should not be entertained. At times 
they exceed the bounds and earn the displeasure of Allaah 
Ta`ala.
Question:
She is very obedient, Deeni-conscious, intelligent 
literate, and overall a gem. When I see the 
Bahishti Zewar
and 
other Deeni Kitaabs, then she appears to be putting all those in 
practice. 
Answer: 
Such a wife is truly as the Hadith describes, 
The Best 
of Possessions
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family lineage going. How sad and tragic is it that she cannot 
even be given some credit and praise for all the work she does. 
It is a grave act of ingratitude when instead of appreciating, her 
efforts, complaints are made. 
What if you feel awed or are given a cold shoulder by someone, 
an officer or clerk in an office, then you would make sure you 
avoid that company or branch so as not to have contact with the 
sullen person. Now what about your poor life-partner or 
beloved mother? Can they ignore and avoid you for your dour 
and stern attitude? Certainly not!
Who is there to prevent your poor wife from feeling helpless 
and hopeless because of your attitude towards her? 
Your wife spends all her energies and efforts at housework that 
she tires herself, so much so that it even sometimes leads to 
physical illness.