All praise is due only to Allaah. We laud Him and beseech His

A thought about practicing thereupon
Every man should think to himself whether he would like it if 
someone else speaks to him or interacts with him in the manner 
that he normally does with his wife. If his answer is negative 
then he should realise that his wife is also a human being with 
feelings. Insha-Allaah Ta`ala such realisations should knock 
some sense and intelligence in even the hardest of hearts. We 
should all make dua that Allaah Ta`ala grant us a sweet tongue. 
Remember that a tongue has no bones, but a ‘sharp’ tongue 
gives rise to such a ‘bone’ whose hurt may last a lifetime. 
Remember that to be able to speak nicely is an art. Don’t think 
that the person who speaks the most is necessarily the best at 
holding a conversation. It is just as difficult to listen and bear 
the speech of others as it is to be able to speak eloquently. If 
your wife ever speaks to you out of turn, then you should 
remain silent and bear it patiently.
Remember that soft and eloquent speech and a sweet tongue are 
instruments of ‘sorcery’. A person can mesmerise others with 
his tongue. A sweet tongue covers up faults. A man may have 
the world of good traits in him, but if he has an evil tongue then 
it will wash away all his goodness (in the sight of others).
There will be great benefit for you in adopting a kind and soft 
tone and your wife will change her attitude towards you, even if 
she is foul-tempered. 

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Adopt a soft and inviting approach to your wife instead of a 
confrontational one
You should remember one salient point and that is that there 
are rarely any two families in this world who have the identical 
temperaments and dispositions. It is not amongst the traits of a 
Muslim that he picks on every small thing and make an issue 
out of it. You should forget the old issues and continue ahead. 
Remember that whatever you wish to tell your wife, do so in a 
soft and calm tone and not in a confrontational one. That 
husband is successful who advices and speaks to his as a 
Muslih
, that is, he speaks to her for her reformation and not for 
ridiculing her. He speaks to her as an inviter and not a debater. 
He speaks to her in order to ‘make’ the home and not ‘break’ it. 
The husband must remember that in encouraging his wife 
towards good acts is a painstaking and long procedure, which 
requires much patience and tolerance. Together with his efforts 
he should make dua unto Allaah Ta`ala for assistance.
An inviter husband never loses hope. He propagates to his wife 
and leaves the result to Allaah Ta`ala. 
That wife who is the object of propagation must not be 
chastised, belittle or insulted. Do not remind her of last evils. 
Praise and appreciate whatever she does, albeit little. 
Remember the husband will most certainly receive his reward 
in the Aakhirah for having tolerated and guided his wife with 
soft and kind words and tones.