All praise is due only to Allaah. We laud Him and beseech His

binding to express your happiness of the occasion. Each 
person should do what his means and disposition allows. 
There should be no competing with others or practicing of 
customs in this regard.
 

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its attainment becomes out of reach, then man’s heart will turn 
to impermissible and other ways of fulfilment. 
Islaam has made the occasion of Nikah a simple one and the 
customs and rituals of man have made it difficult, and in some 
cases unattainable. 
We have placed countless customs, 
traditions and wasteful expenses on this blessed simple 
occasion.
The poor man, even the average person, will have to 
think very deeply before contemplating Nikah due to the many 
encumbrances and expenses involved in present-day marriages. 
One needs thousands of rands before one can contemplate 
getting married, because of all the rituals and expectations of 
others. Not a cent of all this money is required to fulfil the 
immediate needs or requisites of a Nikah, rather it is needed to 
satiate the bloated egos of man. 
The Shariah only calls for a simple Walimah feast, and that 
too, only in accordance to what the man can 
easily 
afford.
The occasion of Nikah is meant to be a blessed occasion and if 
we bring the Shariah simplicity into it, then we will acquire all 
the blessing attendant to this event, however, due to the many 
un-Islaamic customs and ways, we invite nothing other than 
darkness and evil into our lives and all this totally deprives this 
holy matrimony of all its deserved blessings. 
We have replaced the happiness with stress and grief.
We 
spend money like water running out of a tap to satisfy all our 
un-Islaamic and bestial desires and whims at fulfilling these 
customs which have become attached to Nikahs. 
Most of us will agree to this wastage and un-Islaamic ways 
verbally, but when it comes to practice, extremely few put into 
practice what the Shariah calls for. All the others fall into the 
same trap of customs and cultural traditions.
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The only way to curb and stem these evil practices is that the 
bold ones amongst us must take the initiative and practice on 
what the Shariah and Sunnat calls for. In this way, Insha-Allaah 
Ta'ala, more and more people will follow suit and the back of 
these customs will be broken. These customs which have made 
the occasion of Nikah a form of punishment rather than one of 
happiness and blessings. 
If the wealthy ones will not abandon their evil ways in this 
regard, then at least the bourgeoisie (middle-class) should take 
up the courage and not waste their hard-earned money in these 
lavish ways.