All praise is due only to Allaah. We laud Him and beseech His

To bear difficulty due to a disagreement with the wife is 
also a 
mujaahadah
A person, who was explaining his condition, mentioned that it 
was his ill-fate that his disposition and temperament and that of 
his wife were far apart. He said that his wife does not have any 
apparent fault, it was just that they were ‘poles apart’. Owing to 
this conflict in natures, they were drifting apart day by day. It 
was like a wall between them, which was getting more and 
more solid. He said that this was having an adverse effect on 
his work and making his life constrained. He felt that his future 
was bleak and held no hope for himself. This, he said, was 
adversely affecting his worldly and 
ukhrawi
life. He requested 
duas for peace of mind and contentment of heart and that this 
situation be resolved. 
He complained that he is stuck in this situation for the past 
three years and even yearns death to escape, or to be isolated in 
some far-off place. 
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Reply
: Your letter has reached me. You are a person with 
courage, so why do we note so much of impatience in your 
tone? You should exercise some patience because situations 
such as these are tests and require 
mujaahadah
. Bear your 
situation for a while yet, and soon you will, Insha-Allaah Ta`ala 
find a plan to overcome your grief and sorrows. 
To increase love for the wife is a sign of Taqwa
Question:
Can you please advise me regarding a natural 
occurrence in my life, where over the years I have become 
more fond of my wife. Is this in any way harmful to me? 
Answer:
This in reality is Sunnat. This is the fruit of Taqwa. 
When the Taqwa increases in a person then his affection for his 
increases. 
Connection with the wife
Question:
I do have a connection with my wife, but it is as 
though it is a calamity on me. Many a times I get scared. When 
I am with her then also I have a strong affection towards her. 
Once when she was very ill, then I felt in my heart that it is 
better she dies so that she may attain relief, however I pushed 
away all such thoughts, lest it be sinful. Alhamdulillah, she 
recovered. 
Answer: 
Yes, such thoughts should not be entertained. At times 
they exceed the bounds and earn the displeasure of Allaah 
Ta`ala.
Question:
She is very obedient, Deeni-conscious, intelligent 
literate, and overall a gem. When I see the 
Bahishti Zewar
and 
other Deeni Kitaabs, then she appears to be putting all those in 
practice. 
Answer: 
Such a wife is truly as the Hadith describes, 
The Best 
of Possessions
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