All praise is due only to Allaah. We laud Him and beseech His

Adopt a soft and inviting approach to your wife instead of a 
confrontational one
You should remember one salient point and that is that there 
are rarely any two families in this world who have the identical 
temperaments and dispositions. It is not amongst the traits of a 
Muslim that he picks on every small thing and make an issue 
out of it. You should forget the old issues and continue ahead. 
Remember that whatever you wish to tell your wife, do so in a 
soft and calm tone and not in a confrontational one. That 
husband is successful who advices and speaks to his as a 
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, that is, he speaks to her for her reformation and not for 
ridiculing her. He speaks to her as an inviter and not a debater. 
He speaks to her in order to ‘make’ the home and not ‘break’ it. 
The husband must remember that in encouraging his wife 
towards good acts is a painstaking and long procedure, which 
requires much patience and tolerance. Together with his efforts 
he should make dua unto Allaah Ta`ala for assistance.
An inviter husband never loses hope. He propagates to his wife 
and leaves the result to Allaah Ta`ala. 
That wife who is the object of propagation must not be 
chastised, belittle or insulted. Do not remind her of last evils. 
Praise and appreciate whatever she does, albeit little. 
Remember the husband will most certainly receive his reward 
in the Aakhirah for having tolerated and guided his wife with 
soft and kind words and tones.
The wife must also be praised
Dear readers! It is a universally accepted fact that when you 
love someone then even their faults appear nice to you and also 
one feels inclined towards praising his/her loved one 
constantly. Therefore, you should always speak nicely and laud 
praises on your wife. 
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Doctor Abdul Hayy Saheb (rahmatullah alayh) used to say that 
a man should reflect on the service his wife renders him, which 
is her way of treating him with good relations. It is therefore 
appropriate that the husband praise his wife’s cooking, baking, 
etc. so as to give her more encouragement and support. 
However as for that husband who regards his wife as a servant 
and slave, he will naturally regard her cooking, cleaning the 
house, etc. as her obligatory duties, so where will such a man 
ever praise his wife for these acts of services she renders him? 
Instead of praising her, he will chastise and rebuke her for any 
small mistake she makes in her tasks, like if she puts a little less 
salt in the food, etc. This type of attitude will lead to endless 
fights and strife in the home.
Women, by nature are soft-hearted. A little praise goes along 
way. Instead of finding fault, rather raise for every good she 
does for you. If there is a need to rectify something then do it in 
a way where she does not feel insulted or that her effort was in 
vain.
When the husband is outwardly thankful and grateful to his 
wife, then she acquires and attains courage and strength for 
performing better in her future efforts.