All praise is due only to Allaah. We laud Him and beseech His

The wife must also be praised
Dear readers! It is a universally accepted fact that when you 
love someone then even their faults appear nice to you and also 
one feels inclined towards praising his/her loved one 
constantly. Therefore, you should always speak nicely and laud 
praises on your wife. 
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Doctor Abdul Hayy Saheb (rahmatullah alayh) used to say that 
a man should reflect on the service his wife renders him, which 
is her way of treating him with good relations. It is therefore 
appropriate that the husband praise his wife’s cooking, baking, 
etc. so as to give her more encouragement and support. 
However as for that husband who regards his wife as a servant 
and slave, he will naturally regard her cooking, cleaning the 
house, etc. as her obligatory duties, so where will such a man 
ever praise his wife for these acts of services she renders him? 
Instead of praising her, he will chastise and rebuke her for any 
small mistake she makes in her tasks, like if she puts a little less 
salt in the food, etc. This type of attitude will lead to endless 
fights and strife in the home.
Women, by nature are soft-hearted. A little praise goes along 
way. Instead of finding fault, rather raise for every good she 
does for you. If there is a need to rectify something then do it in 
a way where she does not feel insulted or that her effort was in 
vain.
When the husband is outwardly thankful and grateful to his 
wife, then she acquires and attains courage and strength for 
performing better in her future efforts. 
A furtive act of oppression
A common ailment which is found nowadays in most, if not all, 
homes is that the women of the house, be it the mother or wife, 
is taken for granted. The washing, cooking, ironing, cleaning 
and all other domestic chores carried out by the womenfolk is 
deemed as being her obligatory and necessary duties. It is taken 
fro granted that all these chores are the responsibility of the 
mother or wife. None of her effort is appreciated due to this 
type of mentality. This is 
kufraan-e-ni`mat
(ungratefulness for 
a favour). 
Remember, this is the very woman through whose efforts all 
the household chores are being attended to. She keeps the 

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