All praise is due only to Allaah. We laud Him and beseech His

Soft tone and sweet tongue
It is of utmost importance that the husband adopt a soft tone 
and sweet tongue in the home. Without this, there cannot be 
any peace in the home. In that home where the spouses use soft 
tones and speak gently to each other, there is much blessings 
and affection.
If you adopt this manner, you will experience and witness for 
yourself the effects thereof. Your wife will be more affectionate 
towards you and your children will be positively affected 
thereby. 
Allaah Ta`ala says in the Qur`aan Majeed, 
“And (the two of 
you- Hadhrat Moosa and Haroon –alaihis salaam) speak to 
him (Firoun) in soft tones, so that he may reflect and fear.”

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In commenting on this Aayat, Hadhrat Mufti Shafee Saheb 
(rahmatullah alayh) said that regardless of how oppressive and 
evil the opposite party may be, it is necessary to deal with them 
kindly. The result of this would be that they may reflect and 
ponder and the fear of Allaah Ta`ala may be imbibed into their 
hearts. 
Firoun, the tyrant supreme of the time, who had caused so 
much of oppression to the Bani Israeel and murdered so many 
of their innocent children, was the target of Hadhrat Moosa and 
Haroon’s 
(alaihimus 
salaam) 
invitation 
to 
Tauheed. 
Notwithstanding his blatant evil, these two great Prophets were 
ordered to speak to him kindly and softly. Although Allaah 
Ta`ala knew in His Infinite Wisdom that Firoun would not 
accept the 
da`wat
, yet He instructed this to His Nabis. Even 
though Hidaayat was not destined for Firoun, yet the two Nabis 
(alaihimus salaam) had to observe the proper protocol.
Similarly, Mamoon Rashid, the Khalifah was once severely 
admonishing a man. The man told him, 
“Speak kindly and 
softly because Allaah Ta`ala ordered someone better than you 
(i.e. Hadhrat Moosa and Haroon - alaihimus salaam) to speak 
kindly to someone more evil than I (i.e. Firoun).”
Remember! The obedience of the wife to the husband can be 
achieved by following a simple recipe. If a man habituates 
himself to speaking softly and kindly to his wife, then she will 
eventually also follow in his example. When a husband is kind 
to his wife and speaks to her affectionately, then not only will 
the wife become obedient to her husband, but she will also 
adopt this mannerism of his.
By screaming and shouting at her, nothing will be achieved. 
Remember that the house wherein the husband constantly 
scolds and admonishes his wife and children, will be bereft of 
all warmth and comfort. 
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Everyone is beset with problems and worries in their lives. A 
man should not vent his frustrations on his family. He should 
curb his emotions and anger and adopt a kind attitude. This will 
engender a happy home. A happy home and inhabitants will 
give the man strength to face and conquer his outside problems. 
You should therefore make a firm resolution to adopt a kind 
and pleasant countenance in the home, regardless of what 
problems you may have otherwise.