A dictionary of Proverbs (Oxford Paperback Reference)

My SON is my son till he gets him a wife, but my daughter’s my daughter all the days of her life

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  1670 J. RAY English Proverbs 53 My son’s my son, till he hath got him a wife, But my daughter’s my daughter all days of her life. 1863 C. READE Hard Cash I. v. ‘Oh, mamma,’ said Julia warmly, ‘and do you think all the marriage in the world.. can make me lukewarm to my.. mother?.. It’s a son who is a son only till he gets him a wife: but your daughter’s your daughter, all-the-days-of her life. 1943 A. THIR-KELL Growing Up iii. She doesn’t hear from him for months at a time now of course and then it’s only a wire as often as not, but your son’s your son till he gets him a wife, as the saying is. 1981 Listener 27 Aug. 206 There’s a very old-fashioned sort of saying we have in the North which goes, ‘My son is my son till he finds him a wife, but my daughter is my daughter the rest of her life.’ ■ children and parents
  

son see also CLERGYMEN’S sons always turn out badly; the DEVIL’S children have the Devil’s luck; like FATHER, like son; the SHOEMAKER’S son always goes barefoot.
SOON ripe, soon rotten
Cf. L. cito maturum cito putridum, quickly ripe, quickly rotten.

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  1393 LANGLAND Piers Plowman C. XIII. 233 And that that rathest [earliest] rypeth, roteth most saunest. 1546 J. HEYWOOD Dialogue of Proverbs I. x. C4^V In youth she was towarde [promising] and without euill. But soone rype sone rotten. 1642 D. ROGERS Naaman x. Some indeed.. are moved to..disdaine by their inferiours forwardnesse, called them hastings, soone ripe, soone rotten. 1887 S. SMILES Life & Labour vi. Very few prize boys and girls stand the test of wear. Prodigies are almost always uncertain; they illustrate the proverb of ‘soon ripe, soon rotten’. 1976 L. ROSTEN O KAPLAN! My KAPLAN! II. iii. ‘Parkhill,’ Mr. Robinson steelily murmured, ‘we may all profit from the ancient adage: “Presto maturo, presto marcio?!” Yes: “The sooner ripe, the sooner rotten!” That applies to pupils no less than fruit!’ ■ youth